Issue #3 / May 2004

NEW CLOTHING IN OUR STORE!

 

 

www.LargeInCharge.com Holds Clothing Drive for HIP HOP APPRECIATION WEEK!

 

LargeInCharge.com Is Interviewed by: Jab Your Jaw Radio!

Welcome to the Large In Charge Newsletter

 

In this Issue of L.I.C

 

Featured Person - Interview Big Boi '00 Entertainment. Chi-town Crew!

 

Raqui's Spot - Can you find a Mate in the BBW Club Scene?

 

Jay's Spot -  Top BBW Online Link Review!

 

Food Relations - The Double Ended Sword. Family and Food!  

Readers own Experiences with there Families!

 

Art - Cartoons by A.S.  View and Vote which is your favorite!

 

Guest Spot -  How to Find a Size Friendly Gym!

 

Ask Us - Finally, a place to ask those questions you want answers to.  Ask Raqui and Jay your questions.  We handle all subjects.

 

Monthly Topic - BBW/SSBBW - BHM/SSBHM Hook up! Register on our Message Board and meet that Beauty or Cutie your looking for!

 

Events & Pictures - L.I.C.  Delivers Info. on the hottest BBW events and parties. Check out our Promo's, See what is happening near you!

 

L.I.C. Store - What's New? Plain White and Black Tee Shirts to 6XL, Hip Hop Tee Shirts to 6XL, Casual Wear to 8XL coming this month and EBay Auctions!

 

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Large In Charge Featured Person

Big Boi Entertainment - Chicago

Pat & Yolanda Founders

Big Boi Artists

   

Causal and Evening Wear

    

Sports and Night Wear

Big Boi Events

 

FROM: NEW YORK CITY

TO: CHICAGO  “BIGBOI00ENTERTAIMENT”

New Phrase of the Month: The Big World is Expanding

            New York City is where I was raised.  I personally have never yet been to Chicago.  Always wanted to go, but I don’t have friends or family there and I never had a reason to visit.  I always pictured Chicago’s skyscrapers and city photographs to be similar to New York City

Then I thought about the BBW scene.   I always wondered what the Big Women was like in Chicago New York City is supposedly known for kicking off the BBW Club scene.  Whether or not this is true….we will consider for a future issue.  The point is that subconsciously, as a native New Yorker, I have to admit that I thought that nobody could party like a New York City Party!  I am old enough and can say I was there when the BBW Clubs in NYC first started Poppin!  We had a lot of fun!  And, to this day….New York City is Still Live….No Dought!    

This Months Issue is dedicated to the site that woke me up to some brand new “Big World” BBW / BHM  , Next Level, Change the Game, Sharpen your Skills and Raise the Bar...Type of people.  To all my New York City brothers and sisters, I gotta give props where props is due.  If right now I had to choose the most creative “Big World” Family & Staff Award, I would have to give it up to BigBoi00Ent. Fam in Chi-Town.  They Making it Happen out there!

Top 4 Reasons:

Party Promotion- BigBoi00Ent BBW / BHM Events

Clothing Line- Online Store, Fashion Shows, Exhibit Booths

Record Label- People of Size Recording Artist

Website- World Wide Networking

 

May Issue #3 Bottom Line:  This company can throw a good party, pack in beautiful BBW’s / BHM’s, in custom made clothing,  allow shopping at the vendor tables, where you can purchase a Big Girl Jam CD…from the Big Size Record Label and interact with the crew on the website….You got my support! All the way!  100%.  Many people can talk about how they promote parties and music & entertainment and fashion dreams and internet ideas and so on and so forth…your company actually is doing it and doing it well!  I hope all people of size and supporters read this article and support you merely out of the inspiration given to the future entrepreneurs behind you.  I personally don’t know of any other company…right now in the Big World…that can say that they have all 4 of these areas “locked”!...Chicago’s BBW / BHM scene deserves Much Respect!

 

The May 2004 Issue “Big World” Business Mogul Award goes to

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Jay of LargeInCharge

 

     If you think New York City got it going on.  It is time to head over to Chi-town!  This company has everything going for them along the lines of diversity.  I see two Mega Founders along with a bunch of talented people who are forming a united band that will not be stopped!

     From events, to clothing, and on with recording artists, they prove to be a formidable bunch.  All I can say is keep doing what is right! Show your pride and love yourself!  That is what they seem to be doing everyday and successful they are.  I have to say I am loving this great group of positive people!

Raqui of LargeinCharge

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Interview with Big Boi Entertainment:

I.  BBE History

       1.  Who are the founders of BBE?

             The husband and wife duo, Patrick (BigBoi’00) and Yolanda (1st Lady)

 

2.        Do you consider yourselves BBW’s or BHM’s

Yes, both of us

 

3.        Have you been a BBW or BHM all of your life

All our lives

 

4.       Where were you raised and what was your family life like

Patrick,-Gary, IN; only child; had best of both worlds, mom/grandparents

Yolanda- Blytheville, AR- oldest of 4 children; large maternal family unit; had best of both worlds also

 

5.       How did your company get started

B.B.E. started because after attending various other BBW events, we felt the need to provide BBW events to the urban community.

 

6.       Where did your company name come from

                    The company was named after Patrick and was actually derived from his on-line name PBigBoi’00.

 

7.       How big is your staff

Can you believe it, only 6 people. We also have a VIP advisory committee of 10 people.

 

8.       What are the different departments in your company, who are the department heads and what do they do

-Monthly BBW/BHM dance parties- BigBoi’00/ 1st Lady

-Public Relations- Deborah (DIVA)- PR/AR Manager

-Security- Andrew (Ebony Knight)- head of security for all BBE events

-Charter members/VIPS-Jackie (Babyface Carmela) President of the VIPS; organize all of the volunteer needed help for monthly dance parties

-B.B.E.Records-BigBoi’00-CEO, Executive Producer

 

II.                  PARTY PROMOTION

1.       When did the BBW/BHM party scene begin in Chicago

The scene actually goes back to the late 80’s early 90’s.  We started attended BBW/BHM parties in the Midwest about 7 years ago

 

2.       When and where was your first party and was it a major success

First party was May 18, 2000- Park Inn Conference Center in Harvey, IL; No it was not.  Only 15 people attended the first party.  10 of those people were family.

 

3.       How are the events now

HOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOTTTTTTTTTTTT!!!!!!!!!!!1

 

4.       Who is your house D.J.

None other than D.J. James E. from In The Basement Productions

 

5.       What’s the key to throwing a slamin party.  What makes BBE party better than the rest

The answer to this question is easy.  Our crowd is what makes our parties the HOTTEST in the Chi.  Our crowd is friendly, outgoing and just plain OFF THE CHAIN.  D.J. James E. keeps the music HOT. It’s a great atmosphere to get your party on anyway you choose.  We promote lots of participation and interaction.

 

6.       Do you have any major events or bashes coming up in the near future

We have monthly BBW/BHM dance parties every 3rd Friday of the month. Yes, we are going to have 2 bashes this year. 

Sept. 3,4,5 and Dec. 31-Jan. 1,2.  For more information, visit our website.

 

 

 

 

III.                1st LADY DESIGNS

1.       Where did the clothing line name come from

When I design garments or make an outfit for someone, they look and feel so good about themselves, it gives me a feeling that the individual feels like they are royalty.  So 1st Lady just fit

 

2.       How long have you been designing clothes

Professionally, for about 3 years.

 

3.       What type of clothing do you produce

Just about anything that someone wants.  My website shows, casual, sport, evening, sleepwear, and something for the kids.

If you can dream it up……We can hook it up…….

 

4.       What makes your clothing company different from others

My motto says it all…….(Plus size fashions at regular size prices)

 

5.       Does your company promote fashion shows, where and when

Only on a small level.  At the annual anniversary, pajama, and New Years Eve parties.  One of 1st Lady Design’s goals for 2004 is to promote and produce a BBW/BHM fashion show on a larger scale.  And to continue to make the brand better known to the BBW/BHM community.

 

 

 

IV.                BBE RECORDS

1.       What type of music does your label produce

                     Our primary genre at B.B.E. Records is Hip-Hop and R&B.  However, due to the varied musical backgrounds

                     of our production team, it’s not uncommon for other musical styles and elements to come into play.

 

2.       Tell us something about each of your recording artists, groups, and producers

B.B.E. Records uses a team approach to production.  Patrick, BigBoi’00 serves as Executive Producer as well as an artist on the label.  B.B.E. records currently works with several artists and or groups.  EarCandy, (Miles, Passion, Brain and Unspoken) do neo-soul and spoken word.  Asad, is an associate R&B producer and vocalist. Da Fam, consist of Ms. BMW, InfaMiss, Ms. Kitty, Nawledge and BigBoi’00. And  is definitely Hip-Hop and R&B with a serious adult edge. DIVA, is a spoken word artist.  All members have input and make artistic contributions to the records that we make. 

 

3.       Honestly, which artist or group is really hot right now?  Who’s in the forefront?  Who is the best musician

All of our acts are Hot and because we appeal to such a large range of musical tastes, everyone shine in their own area.  EarCandy is definitely emerging as one of the premier spoken word/neo-soul groups in the Chi.  Da Fam has Ms. BMW in the “Hot Seat” right now because so many people are loving her sexy, rap style.  And Asad is heating things up as one of the few real R&B crooners in the Chi.  All of these things come together to make B.B.E Records the label to watch.  We are definitely a “Small Independent Label with Major Label Attitude.”

 

4.       What is the hottest single your company has produced

                     We actually have a couple of really hot singles.  Ms. BMW featuring InfaMiss on “Big Girls Don’t Cry”. Asad brings

                     the heat on “Ghetto Tango”- a steppers cut.  EarCandy is moving quite a few units of their single “Bronzeville”

                     featuring Passion.  Diva has a hot spoken word joint in “Can I” to be featured on her Maxi-Single, to be released in

                     June 2004.

 

5.       Name the top 3 records that you would want the clubs and radio stations to play

1)       “GRIZZMATIZED”- a new joint featuring Ms. BMW

2)       “Ghetto Tango” – featuring Asad

3)       “The BigBoi’00 Bounce Remix”- this joint was written for the B.B.W. party community

 

 

 

 

V.                  WEBSITE

1.       Who designed your website and when did it first get published

Our website was built by Jim @ Risque Web Designs.  And has been published since Jan. 04.  We also have a yahoo group since 2000. 

 

2.       How are your models selected for your site

We try to take pics of all garments designed and made for people.  No special criteria needed.

 

3.       The pajama party looked like it was a lot of fun, will you continue to post more pics

Yes

 

4.       Are you getting positive feedback from online viewers worldwide

Yes

 

VI.                BBE’S OPINIONS

1.       What kind of overall response do you get from the BBW/BHM Chicago community

                     Generally, the response is very positive.  Our events and products are very well received.  However, we are always

                     on a mission to reach a larger audience. 

 

2.       Is your company growing rapidly

Yes

 

3.       Being that your company has more than one entity, what areas are you more satisfied with and what areas could use improvement

                     B.B.E. is a company committed to excellence.  We strive to make a positive impact on the markets that we serve. 

                     We are constantly striving to improve and provide better events, clothing and music to our audience.  All the while

                     continuing to improve that it’s cool to be “LARGE and IN CHARGE”.

 

4.       Give us one word that best describes your company

Can’t sum it up in one word.  How about 3  “BIG TYME FUN”

 

5.       What can WWW.Largeincharge.com readers do to help support your company

                    We are honored to be featured in your magazine.  It’s really great to see people showing love to the B.B.W.

                    community.  We would appreciate if your readers would check out the web site, join our yahoo group and just tell

                    everyone they know about B.B.E. and what we do.  And most definitely, a road trip to the Chi to experience B.B.E.

                     in real life.  Only then will they know why “Ain’t No Party Like… A BigBoi’00 Party……..”

 

6.       What advice do you have for inspiring entrepreneurs in this “Big World”

Don’t give up on your dreams.  Stay steadfast and unmovable.  Stay true to your cause……….

 

7.       Are there any other size positive companies that you admire

                    We admire any organization that is sincerely committed to serving and representing the BBW/BHM community in a

                     positive light.  We are all family.

 

8.       What are the future goals for each of our company’s department and what is the overall goal

                     Our general goal for the future is to create a network of BBW/BHM oriented companies from clothing, travel and

                     entertainment  to insurance and healthcare providers.  Over 75% of our society  is overweight.  So in the days of the

                     Atkins Diet, senseless Gastric By-pass operations, the world needs to remember “That Thin Maybe In, But FAT is

                     Still Where It’s AT”.

 

 

So there you have it!   This dedication is about asking readers to understand how much hard work goes into pleasing “a satisfied customer”.  When people party, they want to be entertained, be in a friendly crowd, hear good music, be comfortable, have a nice strong drink (just slipped that in because I hate when clubs try to hit you with the watered down drinks)…basically you wanna have a good time!  In reality, party promoters work hard to create a safe and entertaining environment.  Clothing designers work hard to produce wears that are fashionable, affordable, available, and comfortable.  We all have heard the stories about “the Music Business” so we can imagine the pressures of running a Record Label and lastly this Web Business is No Joke! (Im learning first hand…)  A lot of time and energy goes into web promotion.  Smash all of this together like Fat Gumbo and BigBoi00Ent gets Madd Love, Extra Props, and Much Respect.  Big shout outs to the Entire Crew and affiliates who supports  BigBoi’s mission.

 

To the Bronx , NYC surrounding areas, and LargeInCharge readers world wide….Check their website, buy something, and plan a trip to visit Chi-Town.

 

Ps…..to check out Jay's past  interviews, click on Back Issues

 

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Raqui's Spot

From a Female's Point of View

This month's subject:

Can you find a Mate in the BBW Club Scene?

 

Email Raqui:  raqui@largeincharge.com

 

This Months Subject:  Can you find a Mate in the BBW Club Scene?

     This seems to be the big question I get in my mail box.  I have also heard the same question over and over in the past few years.  Can you find Mr. or Mrs. Right in the BBW Club Scene?  Are these parties the place to find love?

     While I am sure some people have met through the parties that are going on.  I have to deal with what I know best (NYC), and what I have heard about other locations.

Honestly, No, I do not think the BBW Club Scene is the right place to meet Mr. or Mrs. Right.

WHY?  Ok here is what I can come up with.

     The BBW Club scene like all club scene’s have a large percentage of people who are trying to hook up.  Male and Female’s alike are out there trying to find someone just for the night, or the near future. Is this wrong?  NO, But it does leave a stigma that many men believe "BBW’s are easy."  Any man, regardless if they like big women or not can walk into a BBW party, and have a 90% chance of leaving with someone either that night, or meeting up in the near future.  I have heard it many times and witness it also, men just going to the BBW parties because they know that if they are decently good looking they have a big chance of getting some nookie before the evening is over,  and they might have a pocket full of numbers for future nookie dates. 

     Does this mean all BBW’s are easy?  NO WE ARE NOT!  Some of us like to have sex and want to do it how we see fit, just like all the other women and men who are not large in the world.   On the other hand many of us don’t want to have casual sex and suffer with this stigma.  So people your going to have to make it clear when someone approaches you.  Ladies don’t think every man is there just to get some, just like men shouldn’t believe that every woman is on the hunt for someone to bed down.

     Men looking for a nice woman to date or make a life with often complain about the way they are approached and treated.  Many a man has told me he will not go to these parties because of the women who approach him. I have heard complaints like women grabbing penises, asking men what they are working with, wanting to hook up for the night, stating there room numbers and even cruel cases of men being made fun of because they were not down with having sex with just anyone.  Being called fagot and such names until they have left a party. 

     Women looking for a nice guy often complain about being treated like sex objects.  They deal with crazy pick up lines. Inappropriate touching or grabbing.  Out right asking to “Get with them for the night”.   Men chasing them down, sometimes when the men get rejected they heap insults on the woman.  

     I attended a party and invited quite a few of my friends. At least 4 were male.  By the end of the night a certain woman had walked up to 3 of my male friends and used the same line. “Hey you know I’m 20 years old, don’t have any kids, got my own place, and if you want to do this we can go right now!”  All three declined and laughed while they told me the story.  I laughed also, but then later I thought, I am sure she didn’t say this line only to them.  At that same party I danced with a guy who used a stupid line. “Hey girl you’re beautiful what’s your name”.  “Raqui” I replied.  “Damn baby can I Rock the Raqui?”   OH god what was I suppose to do fall in love with his words.  Needless to say I didn’t want to be bothered with him after that.

Below are a few accounts of club happenings from our readers.

 

Words from Readers about Love and the Club Scene:

     I don't like the way that the women are treated at these events.  Especially Black women. The last time that I ventured out to one of these events, I had some really bad experiences.  While I think that I have a healthy libido, I am not easy.  If anything, being larger has made me more selective in whom I date because I've found that since I have been over the 200 pound mark that men do make assumptions about how quickly they could arrive in my bedroom.

     In any event, I was dancing by myself, because unless you want to be dry humped on the dance floor, the men that I have come across at these functions do not want to dance with you.  A man came up to me and asked me to dance.  After dancing through a couple of songs, he asked if we could go sit down and talk.  I agreed.  I asked him the questions that women usually ask men when they are out socially and I offended this man because I did not want to go out to dinner with him to Applebees.  Why?  Because he told me that he was married, and had a 4 month old.  I didn't even go into the ethics of the situation.  I told him that it was nice meeting him, but that I was just trying to get out and socialize (I have a theory about clubbing: most women go to meet new men to date when they are single, most men go as a "guys night out" to get away from the woman they are already with and have no desire to leave -- they are just looking for a "break").  He did not want me to leave, but I got up and walked to the bar to buy myself a drink (didn't want him spending the diaper money on me).  He yelled obscenities at me as I was walking away and told me that my ass was too big anyway.

     When I got to the bar, another man walked up and offered to buy me a drink.  I told him that I wanted to pay for my own drink (since they always claim that women only want them to buy us drinks when we are out).  He insisted, so the bartender winked at me and said, "Let him buy it for you..."  Right after this guy paid for the drinks, he starts asking me the usual questions that guys ask when they are trying to get to know you, but while he is asking, he puts his hand between my thighs.  When I moved his hand from my thigh, he raises it to graze my breast.  I was like, "See...this is why I wanted to pay for my own damn drink!"  I broke away from him and made it through the crowd to stand by where the DJ was playing the music.  I thought that I lost this guy, but when I turned around he was right behind me and he pushed me up against the wall and started grinding on me.  I was trying to get away from him and he yelled in my ear that he knew that he would never see me again, so he needed to get his nut now.  For the record, I did not have on a revealing outfit (not that it should have mattered).  I had on slacks, with a top, and I showed a very minimal amount of cleavage.  It looked more like I was going to work than to a party.

From Diva

    

     When I go to the BBW parties, I don’t see it as a time to find a man.  The men there are not marriage material or men who really want to get to know you.  I have gone to lots of events and over the years have seen the same men go from club to club with different women licking on their necks, kissing on breasts and doing all sorts of crazy crap.  I have seen women go crazy over the new guy.  Since they have already went home with most of the regulars who attend.  Men and Women partake of each other as they want.  I personally don’t think it is right but that is not my business.

From Leesa

     I love going to the parties because they are easy to just hook up with someone when I want to.  Forget waiting for the right man, I want what I want now!  I got a man at home already but what he can’t do, a night at the club can do for me.  I think women have the right to do what they want and this is what I want to do.  I understand the whole BBW thing and us being easy.  But I am not doing anything my skinny chica friends don’t do at the regular club.  A lot of these guys have women and families anyway.  So I have a family and a man and still get to hang.  The guys there who are single are not trying to settle down or they wouldn’t be in a club.  Just take it as fun.  I got to say one thing, I saw a BBW girl get touched the wrong way once and I didn’t like it.  You should only be touched if you’re down with it.  Once I say I am down touch me anywhere.  But until then don’t push up on me. 

From China

     I go to different events on occasion.  I am the type of man who is very selective.  But I have had quite a few one night stands over the years.  I would say 85% of the people at clubs are there to hook up in one way or another for the night or in the near future.  Even a guy like me gets tempted when you have a beautiful BBW or ssbbw talking about what she wants to do to you.  I don’t take these women seriously; I know they are not the “take home to mom type of woman”.  Especially when you see them the next week doing the same thing to another guy.  But I have to admit with so many women ready and available it is hard to take notice of the nice girl in the corner relaxing.  I will have to try and push myself to talk to them and maybe find love.  I urge other men to do the same.  Just talk to them and maybe you would find a nice girl.  But fellows, please if your not serious about a relationship your better off leaving the nice girls alone except for nice conversation.  If you know you’re going to be in the club next week hooking up what is the point. 

From James

 

OK SO WHAT ARE YOU SUPPOSED TO DO?

     Well people male and female alike.  If you go to the club for fun.  Do just that, have fun!  Get a group together with as many people as possible.  Go, take a table and have a drink, talk, dance, listen to the music, have a good time.  Go around and meet the person who runs the party.  Smile and maybe make a new friend (male or female).  If someone approaches you for something your not down with just tell them that you don’t get down like that.  But exchange names and tell them maybe you can have a dance or just talk.  Nothing says you have to have sex to talk to a person.  The point is to open your circle of friends.  This way when you want to hit the club by yourself you know people there.  I find as a woman, a lot of women at the club like to talk and remember you more often.  Carry some Tylenol and if someone looks like they are in pain offer it.  I have made many a friend over having some pain medication at a party.  Carry some paper towels if someone is sweaty offer a paper towel. Much better than those thin napkins at the bar! Some people say I am not doing all of that!  There is nothing wrong with a little kindness. I am not saying to bribe or buy people, these are just a few ways to open conversation, you never know who you might meet and make a friend with.

 

HOW ABOUT FINDING MR. or MRS. RIGHT?

     Truthfully I have not heard many cases of love being found straight from a club.  Yes I know they exist but I have heard more cases of people meeting online, in the street, phone lines, or from an ad and then going to the club to meet in person using it as an outlet, which I think is very safe.  I would defiantly use the clubs for a public meeting place.  Make sure you pick one that has some seating away from the speakers so you can talk, sit and have a drink.

     I would say the best way to meet Mr. or Mrs. Right is to GO OUT. Not just to the club but everywhere.  Use your new friends from the club to go different places.  Go shopping or out to eat.  Maybe just walk a busy avenue and window shop.  Let yourself be seen and your chases of meeting someone get larger.  Chance meetings are usually how relationships start.  If your home all the time your not giving yourself the chance!

 

Thank you for Reading Raqui's Spot!

Would you like to give your comments?

Email Raqui:  raqui@largeincharge.com

 

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Jay's Spot

From a Male point of view.

This months Subject: Jay's Link Review

jay@largeincharge.com

This Months Subject: Jay's  Top Pick for BBW Links

    

               BIG LINKS

                          (In The Big World….There’s Enough Room for Everybody)

Today’s Big World Websites are growing fast.  The amount is increasing everyday. New sites bring about more people of size issues, more clothing, events, networking, new pictures,  and just about anything and everything that caters to BBW’s / SSBBW’s / BHM’s / and FA’s. 

It’s true that many Big World sites become dead links, but this month’s Jay’s Spot section is a dedication to the sites that struggle to survive. This is a spot for people who need to connect with the Big World to find out what’s going on? What's new? And what’s interesting?

For all readers, take time to thumb thru them and enjoy!

 

       TOP 10  WEBSITES of the Month

1)      www.citiartz.com

2)      www.nigelmorganart.com

3)      www.thebiggirlcompany.com

4)      www.scarletbbwart.com

5)      www.thebiggirlsshow.com

6)      www.biggalslingerie.com

7)      www.ladyjaisgiftcourt.com

8)      www.rundekunst.com

9)      www.widebodiesfurniture.com

10)    www.wctalent.com

 

 

TOP BBW / BHM  EVENTS SITES

 

CA                   www.bigdiff.com

                        www.bigboogienights.com

 

CT                   www.bbwpartyct.com

                       www.amplebeauties.com

 

FL                   http://hometown.aol.com/sflbbwdance/bbwdance.html

 

GA                  www.bigbeautifulatlanta.com

                       

IL                    www.bigboi00entertainment.com

                       www.lindasbigconnections.com

 

Mass               www.superbbw.com

 

MI                   www.moretolovemichigan.com

 

MO                 www.stlouisbash.com

 

NY                   http://groups.yahoo.com/group/BiggerandBetterThangsEntertainment/

                       www.phatboyent.com

                       www.clubcurvz.com

 

NC                  http://groups.yahoo.com/group/carolinaphatgurlz

 

NJ                   www.babsbbw.com

 

NV                  www.bbwnetwork.com

 

OH                  http://www.geocities.com/daytonohiobbwparty/

 

PA                   www.phillybash.com

 

TX                   www.clubenvy.net

                       www.austinbbwbash.com

 

WA                  www.bbwnorthwest.com

 

UK                  www.big-girls-paradise.co.uk

 

 

Thanks for reading Jay's Spot

jay@largeincharge.com

 

 

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Food Relations

What does food represent to us?

 

     Welcome to Food Relations.  The subject of food and people is an ever present concern.  What you eat, when you eat, how you eat, why you eat.  We all have to eat at some time or another.  Most of the time we eat for nutrition.  But food also makes us feel good.  The taste, texture, feeling, smell of food.  Some use food for release, or as a weapon for control.  Here in this section of our newsletter we hope to talk about the many aspects of food and get feedback from our readers of what food means to them.  Also how they view food.  So now sit back and read what this months food subject is about. 

The Large in Charge Staff

 

The Double Edge Sword! Family and Food!

 

    I know you have all heard this before.  Clean that plate! There are starving children in this world who would love to have that food!  We sit there and eat wiping our plates clean long after we are full.  In a few years when we show this same behavior we are greedy and fat!  How does Family affect our Food Relations?

    In many cultures food is a form of love.  It is prepared to be tasty and nourishing.  Long hours are spent making sure it is just right.  Our mother’s, grandmothers, and other family members showed love through food and felt honor when we took that second plate.  It is almost a holy experience when we bite into the soothing morsels of food that could be smelled from down the block. This is tradition that goes back into bible times.  Eating until sated (full).  Now in the days of trains, cars, 9-5 job hours, instead of working the fields.  That food stays and sits, it is not burned off with hard labor.  Lifestyles changed but eating stayed the same. 

     On one hand family is telling children to eat it all and never leave anything on the plate.   I remember watching the “We are the world!” campaign as a child.  Seeing the starving children in the world, watching on T.V. how they are dying everyday.  Just because they didn’t have food!  Then the remarks about starving children and how I wasted food made me want to never waste food again.  How does this affect the mind of children?  It is a slow program that is replayed and written on the brain everyday, 3 meals a day.  Just like the term “It isn't over till the fat lady sings!”  Only “It isn't over until your plate is clean!”  This leaves a physiological effect, your stomach says full, but your brain says “Eat, it isn't over yet!”

     Not all children can be grouped the same.  We all know the games children play when it comes to food, leaving the veggies behind.  Moving food around and not eating, then hours later they are starving.  You have to make a schedule and keep to it.  You also have to keep control over portions.  You can’t let children starve but you can’t let them get too used to over eating.  Children often get sick from eating way too much.  

     The truth is there are children who love to eat, and will eat as much as they can, the term used is “Eating with your eyes.”  Seeing it and wanting to eat it, and having as much as possible because it looks good.   It doesn’t matter if they are hungry or not, if it looks like it tastes good we are going to eat it.  Many children and adults live with this problem and only they can solve it if they want to solve it.  Plenty of people enjoy this lifestyle and are entitled to it.   The only thing you can do is have some control over what children consume and some how regulate it and even out all the good and bad foods so they don’t over eat.  Still it may and will happen.  In the end children grow up into adults who may or may not want to eat a lot.

So how do you handle your pudgy child?  With love encouragement and acceptance.  I suggest finding out how your child feels about themselves.  Are they ok with being a big child leading to a big adult?  If so then they should not be forced to change.  They should be loved accepted for the person they are.  If the child really doesn’t want to be big child or adult.  Then they should be counseled and start a lifestyle and food relation that will help them achieve who they want to be.   In both cases there will be some chi