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Welcome to the Large In Charge
Newsletter
In this Issue of L.I.C
Feature of the Month
- Alicia Mitchell - Miss Full Figured USA
Cover Model of the Month
- California's Own - Shyly
Raqui's
Spot
-
The Fat and the Skinny
Russell's
Review
- Diane Amos - The Pine Sol Lady
Jay's Spot
- BBW Sports - Female Footballer
Papi's Peace
- How to Mack Part II - The Actual Application
Good 4 U Food
- Beef and Broccoli Stroganoff - by Xander
Guest Spot -
All new Plus Sized Book!
Fashion Furious
- Fashion Finds from our readers.
Submit your Find.
Product of the Month
- Products for People of
Size
Ask Raqui
- Send Raqui your questions. Get some advice from one Big
person to another.
FREE RAFFLE
- New Plus Sized Book - "A Breath Floats By"
Events &
Pictures
- L.I.C. Delivers Info. on the hottest BBW events, See what
we are doing in the community.
LargeInChargeDating
- Dating for the Large People who are going to be in Charge of
their Love Lives!
LargeInCharge Friends
- The Place for Big People to make Friends and maybe MUCH
MORE!
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Feature of the Month
Alicia Mitchell
Miss Full Figured USA
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Miss Full Figured USA

Miss
Alicia Mitchell at 22 years of age
has accomplished so much as far as a
model and plus sized woman.
She has shown herself to be an
example for others of what
determination can get you.
She is her own manager, Alicia
determines her own destiny.
She has even bigger plans coming and
we all want to be front and center
to see what comes next.
Most of you might know her because
she was a one of the 10 beautiful
plus sized women in Monique's 2005
Phat Chance Beauty Pageant.
She was part of Television History
being in the first televised Plus
Sized beauty pageant. She
makes history with every moves she
makes.
Let me introduce you to Alicia
Mitchell - Raqui
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Interview with Alicia Mitchell |
LargeInCharge.com: What is your name
(Real and nick)?
My
name is Alicia Mitchell My nick name is
PoundKake ( I like Cake Alot!!!!)
LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from
and what is your current Location?
I am originally from Newark NJ but
currently I reside in Irvington, NJ
LargeInCharge.com: Do you consider
yourself a BBW or a SSBBW?
I would consider Myself a SSBBW
because I am not you average size Plus
size women.
LargeInCharge.com: Can you please tell
us your stats? Height, weight, size,nationality, marital status, age,
interests, children?
My Height 5'7 I love to wear spike heels
so that puts me to 5'9 My weight is ENOUGH FOR YOU TO LOVE
!!!!!! and I wear a size 22-26 I am African
American and I am single, sexy, and free very independent 22 years of age .
My interest are Plus size modeling , Fashion and my religion, music and
dancing.
LargeInCharge.com: Tell us about your
Pageant Titles?
My current pageant title is Ms. Full
Figured USA 2006 which it's truly an
honor to be a Queen for Plus size women.
LargeInCharge.com: Were you a child or
teen of size; or did you gain as an
adult?
As a child I was always chunky girl
when it came to my teen years I became a
big girl and now I am a SSBBW so pretty
much I've been Plus size and proud of it
!!!!
LargeInCharge.com: Do you find
acceptance among your family and
friends?
Well first I had to find acceptance
in myself before anyone else could. But
my friends and family have always
accepted me for who I am. My Family and
Friends help keep my strong.
LargeInCharge.com: When did you realize
that Pageants would be your passion?
I like pageants but fashion is more
of my passion . I have been doing
fashion all my life so with doing
fashion shows in stuff I got involved
doing pageants working behind the
scenes.
LargeInCharge.com: How old were you when
you began to enter pageants?
I began to do pageants when I was 17
that was in high school
LargeInCharge.com: When did your win
your first title and what was it?
I won my first pageant title in high
school as Miss Freshman
LargeInCharge.com: How did it feel to
win?
It felt really good to win especially
being a freshman in high school.
LargeInCharge.com: How hard has it been
to be a plus sized woman entering
pageants, have you ever felt rejected?
I would say entering fashion shows is
much harder to do then Pageants. I
really never had a problem with entering
pageants. But fashion Shows yes!!!! I've
felt rejected plenty of times but that
just added fuel to my Fire !!!!
LargeInCharge.com: Was it easy or hard
to start entering pageants? What are the
other ladies like, did you make friends,
was it a fierce competition?
Like every pageant competition is
always FIERCE!!!!! But I can say I got
along with everybody I've also made some
really good friends too. when doing a
pageant i always try to have a positive
attitude all the time which really helps
out a lot.
LargeInCharge.com: Tell us how you get
your clothing for the pageants?
I bought something's and the other
garments such as my gown I made that.
LargeInCharge.com: Have you ever modeled
and for who?
Yes !!!! I started Plus size modeling
before I even being to think about doing
pageants. I have modeled for so many
people. Big, Bold, Beautiful Women, Ms
Full Figured USA Fashion show, DeVoe
Signature, Mo'Nique, Harvey Star
Washington and much more. Plus some of
my own garments.
LargeInCharge.com: Have you made any
appearances, are you a spokes model etc?
I have made plenty appearances as a
spokes model for and also as a Full
Figured Beauty Queen
LargeInCharge.com: What should women
plus sized women who want to enter
pageants prepare for?
Ladies , When entering pageants
always have a open heart and a open
mind. Prepare your self for interacting
with a lot of different people. And the
best advice that i could give is always
keep a smile on your face and portray
self -confidence all the time even when
it gets rough. ( that helps with everyday life too)
LargeInCharge.com: Who is your manager?
I am my own manager right now.
LargeInCharge.com: Do you work for an
agency?
At this current time i do not work
for an agency I like to do my own thing.
LargeInCharge.com: How can someone book
you for a show or appearance?
If someone would like to book my for a
show to do Makeup Clothing etc They
could just send an e-mail to
Plussizemodel@hotmail.com
LargeInCharge.com: Do you have a
website?
My Website is under construction
right now but when it's up Large in
Charge will be the first to know.
LargeInCharge.com: Tell us about some of
the places you have appeared at?
I have appeared at Fashion shows ,
Fashion week in New York, I have been a
lot of place I can't remember them all.
LargeInCharge.com: Tell us if you have
been featured in any magazines or on any
shows?
Well when i did Mo'Niques Fat Chance
I was featured in jet magazine , Us
weekly , and I also did a few other
things before then also.
LargeInCharge.com: What are your future
goals?
My future goal is to become very
successful in the plus size industry.
Through my fashion I want to effect Plus
size people in a positive way.
LargeInCharge.com: Give us one word that
you can say best represents your work?
one word that best describes my work
is OUTSTANDING !!!!
LargeInCharge.com: How much have you
evolved as since those early days as a
youth?
In my youth days i was always
involved in fashion that's all I did.
LargeInCharge.com: How can the readers
at www.largeincharge.com help support
your career?
Just keep a look out for my clothing
line I cater to men Women and teens it's
going to be really hot !!!! Large in
Charge will be the first to see it.
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Cover
Model of the Month |
Cover Model of the Month
Shyly

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Interview with Shyly |
LargeInCharge.com: What is your name?
I am known as Shyly when I model.
People often tell me that it doesn’t
seem to fit my personality, but it
actually does. I am very shy with new
people.
LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from
and what is your current Location?
I am a California girl, born and bred in
the northern part of the state. (Like,
you know!) Despite brief stints in other
states and countries, this will always
be home.
LargeInCharge.com: Can you give us some
information about yourself (Age, Height,
Size, Nationality, Marital Status,
Children, etc.)?
I’ll be 29 on May 4th, and if you’re
making a gift list I like emeralds and
sapphires and diamonds and…
Okay, all kidding aside I really will be
29 on May 4th, I am 5’4” on a good day,
a size 28/30, and single with no
children. (I’m the eldest of nine
siblings, though, so it sometimes feels
like I have some!)
LargeInCharge.com: Were you a big child,
or did you gain weight later in life?
I have always felt large, but in
retrospect I wasn’t more than plump for
the majority of my life. It is only very
recently that I would say I’ve become
fat. Interestingly, it is also only
recently that I have begun to accept and
enjoy myself, and my life is a far
better place to be now than it was when
I was a self-loathing jock. Go figure.
LargeInCharge.com: How did you feel
growing up as a large child?
I hated it. I felt much larger than I
actually was, and was painfully
self-conscious most of the time. I was
also a drama queen, but that’s
unrelated. ;)
LargeInCharge.com: What made you decide
to enter the LargeInCharge model search?
I like to support and participate in
events that promote size positivity,
which this does.
LargeInCharge.com: Do you have any
experience in modeling? If so tell us
about what you have done.
I have been an art model for about
two years now. I have been privileged to
work with many world-class photographers
and artists, and to see photographs of
myself included in books and gallery
shows, as well as a handful of
documentaries relating to body size.
While I am active within the size
acceptance community, the bulk of my
time is spent “out there,” talking about
body issues with people who have never
heard of size acceptance, and whose
first introduction is seeing a
photograph or a painting of my fat body.
My website, The Beauty Curve (www.thebeautycurve.com)
is a tool that I use to reach out both
to people of size, but also to the world
at large, to encourage acceptance of
body diversity.
LargeInCharge.com: It takes a lot of
confidence to model... What has given
you the confidence you have?
A large part of it has been the
modeling itself. The wonderful thing
about being able to work with the
caliber of artists that I do is that
each time I see new pictures or
drawings/paintings of myself, I am
afforded the opportunity to see myself
through someone else’s eyes. In doing
so, I find beautiful things about myself
that I never knew were there, and am
given the opportunity to face things
about myself that I dislike, and begin
to work on accepting them.
As an example, recently I was flown to
Greece to work with two art
photographers. One of them is convinced
that I have some of the cutest feet he’s
ever seen. They’re short, wide, fat, and
usually a feature I try to hide. He
wouldn’t let me, though, and almost
every photograph he took includes my
feet.
I was mortified at first, but after
wrestling with the images for a few
weeks, and being given the opportunity
to look at something about myself that I
don’t like I can begin to see how my
feet are kind of cute and funny, and how
they fit me perfectly. They’ll never win
any awards, that’s for sure, but seeing
these photographs has gone a long way
toward helping me see my feet in a
different light.
And that’s a good thing. Because really,
there are more important things in life
to worry about!
LargeInCharge.com: Did you find it a
hard journey to be accepted for your
size?
Certainly! It still is. This is a
deeply ingrained prejudice, and battling
it on either a personal or societal
level is going to be consistently
challenging.
LargeInCharge.com: Do you find
acceptance among your family and
friends?
My mother is especially proud of me,
but looking at family and friends as an
entire group, it’s about 50/50.
LargeInCharge.com: What would you say
inspires you most in life?
The need to create, coupled with the
cause of size acceptance. Whether I am
modeling, photographing or writing I am
interested in creating beauty that is
inclusive, not exclusive.
LargeInCharge.com: Do you find
acceptance in the work force?
Yes, definitely. Several of my
co-workers and I have had conversations
about size issues, and a few know about
my modeling and have come to art gallery
openings to see some of the work. Most
of them know that I am also a
photographer who shoots plus models
almost exclusively, and my advocacy has
come up from time to time. It’s all just
part of who I am, so the people I spend
more time talking to learn these things
about me and accept them.
LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you
think will happen five years from now
with size acceptance?
It’s hard to say. While there are a
handful of individuals out there doing
amazing things, like Marilyn Wann on the
political front and Mo’nique on the
social, I don’t see a very cohesive
movement afoot yet, despite size
acceptance’s 35+ year history. I hope
that in five years fat people will have
banded together as a group and used the
financial and political power that we
have as a majority of the population to
refuse to be treated as second-class
citizens any longer. I would like to see
changes in the medical field, in popular
media, and in the general level of
tolerance that currently exists for fat
phobia.
LargeInCharge.com: Tell us about your
goals as far as modeling and other
interests.
I plan to continue building momentum
and working with increasingly well known
artists and photographers to bring
imagery of fat beauty to a wider
audience. The changes that we seek
happen one person at a time, one
dismantled prejudice at a time. The more
people who see and experience fat
positivity, the greater the impetus for
change.
LargeInCharge.com: Give us a sentence
that inspires you.
“Beauty is in the eye of the
beholder, but it may be necessary from
time to time to give the stupid or
misinformed beholder a black eye.” –
Miss Piggy
That quote is my motto. One could say
that for the most part, what I do with
my modeling is, figuratively, giving the
unprepared viewer a black eye.
LargeInCharge.com: Can you tell us about
an inspirational moment in you life that
made you feel good about your size.
The day Camryn Manheim won an Emmy
for her role on “The Practice,” and she
thrust that statue over her head (in a
sleeveless gown, no less) and shouted,
“This is for all the fat girls!” That
was before I knew anything about size
acceptance, and it was the first time I
remember identifying with my size in a
positive way. She made me want to cheer.
(Okay, I’ll admit it, I DID cheer!)
LargeInCharge.com: Is there a person in
your life that makes you keep going?
There are two people on a consistent
basis. Firstly my mother, whose response
to finding out that my naked ass is all
over the internet was, “I’m proud of
you, baby girl. You have the courage of
your convictions.”
Secondly my friend Laura, who is also a
singer, painter, poet, photographer and
size activist. She has created an
incredibly personal and profound webpage
about her journey as a fat woman that
includes beautiful self-shot figure
work, which you can see here:
www.moonspheres.com/i.html
LargeInCharge.com: What advice would you
give to other people of size who want to
model?
Figure out exactly what you want to
pursue, what market you fit, and go for
it! (There are details on how I became
an art model in the FAQ section of my
website for those who are interested in
that arena:
www.thebeautycurve.com/faq.html
LargeInCharge.com: What plus size figure
do you admire?
There are several, actually. In no
particular order, and by no means an
exhaustive list:
Mo’nique, who with her contest and
upcoming movie is demanding that fat
people be acknowledged and treated with
respect;
Queen Latifah, who has consistently
refused to compromise who she is;
Mia Tyler, who is proud of being a full
figured model;
Tocarra, who as a very prominent plus
size model in a straight size
competition did a lot to make bigger
girls feel proud;
Camryn Manheim, who has consistently
worked to show that “fat” is not a four
letter word;
Tyne Daly, who is one of the few working
full figured actresses to build a career
that has nothing to do with her weight;
Kathy Bates, who has gotten naked twice
on the big screen in an industry that
favors the young and slender;
Marilyn Wann, for being an activist who
really changes laws and minds;
Big Moves and Big Burlesque, for showing
that every size body can dance and be
sexy;
Maya Angelou, for making a fuller figure
look and sound damn good;
Aretha Franklin and Ella Fitzgerald for
standing in the spotlight unashamed and
singing their hearts out;
Dawn French, for building a comedic
career that is based on being genuinely
funny, and not on the size of her ass;
Amma, for changing the world one
bountiful hug at a time.
LargeInCharge.com: Describe yourself
with one word.
Triumphant.
Again,
Congratulations Shyly we are please to
have you as a member of the LargeInCharge Cover Model Family!

Thank you to UberRussmanDesigns for Being
Shyly's Design Sponsor
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Raqui's Spot
This months Subject:
The Fat and the Skinny
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The
Fat and the Skinny
In this time and day we are beginning to
see strong confident big people living
life. I look around and notice how
many large bodies are around me.
All of them going about there business
and accomplishing what they have to do.
With so many plus sized people in the
world we still wonder why fat is not
accepted. Why is fat blamed for
every problem we have. If
only I was smaller, skinnier, if I lost
a few pounds. Then everything
would fall into place... right?
I have found out a few interesting
facts. I happen to be with an
great guy, this man can eat all
day long and never gain a pound.
WOW tell me more... I hear you
saying. LOL So he eats, and
eats, and eats, and I begin to realize
that he can eat way more than me and
still be super slim. How fortunate
for him some of you may think. But
did you know that slim people are not
happy with there bodies either?
They feel too slim, too skinny, constant
words like "Eat more, eat more your so
skinny!" Terms like "We need to
fatten you up." They put a lot of
pressure on someone, makes them
believe they are not good enough.
Makes them believe there bodies don't
have enough substance.
So someone is stealing the food from my
plate saying I eat to much.
They then put it on my boyfriends plate
saying he doesn't eat enough. Mean
while we both eat about the same amount
though he usually eats more. This
could drive someone insane. I cant
imagine that some people believe that if
we gain or lose weight we will be
perfect, instead of realizing we are
perfect already.
It comes down to confidence, if you
believe your nothing and unworthy.
How will you ever build confidence.
Being aware that you are a special,
wondrous, amazing being, as you are.
Being happy enough to understand that
the only perfection is imperfection.
That crooked tooth, fat roll, funny
walk, it is what gives you character.
The special way someone smiles at you.
The stupid jokes that are so corny they
make you laugh. The way the person
you love, (regardless of being Fat or
Skinny) feels in your arms.
It is not your body that determines your
happiness. It is your mind that
determines if you will allow yourself to
be happy. You just
have to decide if your body (whether
your fat or skinny) is going to make or
break your life. Or is your life
worth living regardless if your body is
satisfactory to others or not.
Raqui
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Russell's Review
Big World Character Review
My mission here at Large In Charge is to finally answer
those questions that we may never even realize to ask. Characters that are
often portrayed in movies, shows, cartoons, and everything else that portray
anything relating to the BBW /BHM community. You ever wonder why there are
no big people in the matrix. I mean what, Nobody eats there? They can't
blame it the food. Or why we're always under some type of scrutiny whether
we realize it or not. I'm here to finalize all answers and give you nothing
but a honest accurate opinion about characters portrayed in such entities.
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Diane Amos - The Pine Sol
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Diane Amos:
Ah the smell of lemon on a newly mopped
floor with an ammonia agent called Pine
Sol. Most of you know this smell. And
almost all of you know who Diane Amos
is... maybe not by name but by
looks. Many of you seen her as the “
Pine Sol “ Lady always cleaning the
floor or showing someone Pine Sol.
Either way, Television would have
subjected you to her already.
Diane who is married. Has been in around
13 movies, Also was a winner contestant
of a game show. You know something. I
think that’s all there is about her. I
mean everywhere I research they all say
the same thing. She’s an actress, She’s
a comedian, and a winner of a show. Can
somebody please help me out over here
and tell me what show she has won
because I’m completely perplexed here.
Well since there isn’t much to talk
about her history. And achievements.
Lets just get to the point is she a plus
or minus in the BBW /BHM Community.
Hmmmmm. Here’s a hard one here. I think
that she can be actually both. I mean
there’s a reason why. Well she can be a
plus because she is an inspiring
actress, comedian and a winning game
contestant. I guess she’s accomplished
many things in her life. She’s very nice
to kids. She says that she’s gets her
inspiration from examples from her
mother. She could be a positive role
model for us all.
But….
She’s can also bring a big negative
impact on the BBW community as well
because all that we always see her is
cleaning people’s floor, or playing an
extra in a movie as a waitress or some
type of servant. A lot of people would
say that she fits a stereotypical mammy
who is fat, black and always cleaning or
always serving somebody. Many people
often refer to her as the current black
Aunt Jemima of today. Or the most
popular term. “SELL OUT”. This is going
to be a tough one this month so I will
not be making the choice if she’s a big
plus or negative entity in the BBW / BHM
Community. I will leave that up to you
readers. Do you agree with me or
disagree, Am I being harsh or am I
speaking the truth?
This time the ball is in your court.
Thank you readers for all of your
support. See you next month…
If you have any suggestions on who
should I Review send in your
suggestions.
Later
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This months Subject:
BBW Sports - Female Footballer
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BBW Sports - Female Footballer
BIG WOMEN...PLAY FOOTBALL TOO!
This month's Jay's Spot BBW Sports Tribute goes out to
all the Women Tackle Football Teams.
Women Sports has come along way! If
your a FA and a sports fan.... (FA
Prediction) keep your eye open for
Faith Mitchell. She's doing Big
Things...for starters she's a BBW,
holding it down in the most roughest
sport on planet earth. Her stats are
impressive and her playing cards are
better than the rest of them! I
especially like the way she promotes
herself pushing her name as well as
awareness about sports on and
offline.
FAITH MITCHELL
www.nysharksfootball.com/sharks_root/team/player.cfm?player=108&all=1
Faith Mitchell Number: 99 Position:
Offensive Line, Defensive Line
Height: 5' 9"
Weight: 250
Hometown: Chicago, Illinois
(Women Football Links)
www.iwflsports.com
www.womensfootballcentral.com
www.womensprofootball.com
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Papi's Peace
This month's Article:
How to Mack Part II
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How to Mack - Part II:
The Actual Application
mack n 1. one who is good with the opposite sex,
usually a male. ("Jeff is such a
mack. He gets all the girls.")
-v 1. to attempt to attract; hit
on. ("I macked to some females
last night.")
Last month I got you mentally prepared to become a
social butterfly. I started
laying the groundwork to have
you become a self-confident,
assertive, and positive thinking
“Macaroni” or “Mack Man”, as my
older brother Mark used to say
(RIP). Now we are going to take
the next step to enhance and
season you into a “Macaroni with
Cheese” (Thank you again, Mark!)
In review of last month, we went over a few
foundational points in the
socialization (“Macking”)
process.
• Remain true 2 yourself. • Be Honest.
• What's the worst that can
happen? • If at first you don’t succeed,
try, try again. • Go after what U want. • There are many different
people in the world. • Don't generalize. • Step your game up.
Now let’s apply these concepts and really dig into the
“how to” of socialization.
As I have said, the most important thing is your mental
state. You must be positive.
Optimistic. You must believe in
yourself. If you cannot believe
in you, how in the world can you
expect someone else to? So, what
types of things can you do to
gain confidence? Well, you can
reference my May article (The
Skin I’m In) and find out some
of the ways that helped me to
feel good about myself. Besides
that, start off with your outer
appearance. They say don’t judge
a book by the cover, but often
times that is unrealistic.
Especially in a social setting,
you only get to make a first
impression once. So the things
you are able to control should
be controlled fully and
completely! Keep your hair and
facial hair tight. Trimmed.
Well-Kept. Take care of your
hands, nails, skin. Put a little
extra into the care of your
clothes. Crisp creases. Be
mindful of your shoes. Keep them
shined and polished. Keep your
gym shoes clean and scuff free.
And never forget your laces,
they are a dirt magnet. Invest
in colognes and smell goods.
These sound like common sense
ideas to some, but to others
they are revelations, believe it
or not. Besides, little things
do mean a lot. Life can be a
game of inches. The smallest
factor can change the results of
various events. Why not give
yourself an advantage whenever
possible. Plus, when you look
good, you feel good. When you
step out of the door and you
KNOW your outfit is sharp, and
your shoes gleam, and your fade
is tight, and you are smelling
good . . . you feel like you can
conquer the world!
Eventually, Papi is going to help you so that whether
you are in the grocery store or
the gas station, at the dentist
office or at the bank, at work
or at the DMZ, you will talk to
ANYONE there with confidence and
lil’ swagger. But, let’s start
out in places known for
socialization and in
environments more geared for
interaction. Now that you’re
fresh dressed like a million
bucks, where do you go? Well, of
course you want to place
yourself in situations that are
geared for your success. If you
cannot dance, why would you go
to the newest and hottest dance
club? If you are not too much of
a drinker, why would you go to a
bar or lounge that doesn’t have
a dance floor? If you have a
great voice, why don’t you scout
out places that have karaoke
nights? Don’t just show off your
skills, flaunt them. Exploit
them. Work your money maker!!!
Are you good at pool? Darts?
Cards? You see where I am going
with this? Not only will you be
in comfortable environments
where you will be and feel
successful, but you will be
interacting with like-minded
people that share at least ONE
of your likes right off the bat.
Please use this mode of thinking beyond just the club
scene. Are you a good bowler?
Join a bowling league. Do you
like to read? Are you
knowledgeable about literature?
Spend some time at Borders. Love
art? Know a little bit about
Picasso? Maybe your trips to the
art institute or the museum
should be more frequent. Again
the idea is to increase your
comfort level and confidence,
and choosing your environment
properly can help tremendously.
We are moving forward deliberately and at a steady
pace, in case you are wondering
why I haven’t given you any good
“lines” or things of that
nature. We are trying to develop
YOU. The unique individual that
is YOU. So we are looking inside
of YOU to see what will work for
YOU. The next step in this
process is practice. Yes,
practice. Just like any sport or
vigorous activity, you don’t
just jump in without warming up
or practicing. Socialization is
the same way. How do you
practice, you ask? Simple. Go
talk to someone. Now that you
are in your place, in your
comfort zone, doing something
you have fun doing and something
you are good at, strike up a
conversation. The catch is, you
have no agenda. You are not
looking for sex. You are not
trying to get a date. You are
not trying to speak up on a
phone number. You are just
having conversation. Be genuine.
Compliment her on something you
find unique or attractive about
her. You like her hair cut. She
has pretty nails. Those shoes
are fierce. Don’t be overbearing
or obnoxious, just be easy.
Engage in a little dialogue.
Smile. Look into her eyes
directly as you talk to her and
she talks to you. If there is a
group, greet all of the ladies.
As you walk past smiling tell
them to have a good time or they
really look great tonight. It is
really easier to converse when
there is no pressure of
expectations or “results”.
During this period you are
developing your approach. How
receptive are people to how you
speak and what you say to them.
What works and doesn’t work in
casual conversation probably
will and won’t work when you are
trying to meet someone.
I think we have covered some more good ground this
month and you have elevated your
confidence to a level that is
ready for the next step . . .
Find out what that is next
month! Until then remember that
Papi loves you.
That’s My Peace!
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Good 4 U Food
Recipes for
Good... Healthy Food
By: Xander - The Food
Dude
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The Big "D"
Truth is truth no matter who says it. Being a large
fellow the possibility has always
existed. The probability of it is high
to occur given certain conditions. This
week the doctor uttered his version of
truth. “Xander, you officially have
Diabetes. Can I interest you in a
gastric bypass? He said with a smile
that I swear looked more like a dollar
sign than a smile. Thanks Doc, just jump
right into my nightmare, the water’s
warm. No thanks on the intrusive
intervention into the internal caverns
of my body, His dollar tree smile
quickly melted into a rebellious,
“Obviously, to have no respect for your
body or care of your health!” How’s that
for a show stopper. He just had to tell
me on a Monday morning.
Some of you are now replaying that moment in your head
when it occurred to you. Others are
getting back to worrying about when they
may hear those words. Maybe you will,
maybe you never will. It brings to
light, for me, a moment when someone is
told they have a smoking or other
related illness that is all connected to
choices and changes that must be made in
our lives. For me, I always joked about
the reason why I didn’t lose weight. I
always said if I lost the extra weight
I’d become one of those jerks who go
around telling people how unhealthy they
are. In short, my cool, my presence, and
my mojo are all connected to my fat.
Makes sense, that’s where all the flavor
is. There are certain universal laws
that cannot be denied, like gravity.
Having spent the better part of the last
two week in and out of hospitals and
doctor’s office in their attempt to get
the fated “sugar levels” down I can tell
you that certain things have changed for
me. I have more awareness of the
significant nature of sugar in the body
and it sometimes fatal affects. Even now
as I write this, my first day back at
the house, I can envision our ezine
mistress, getting ready to kill me for
being late on its submission.
I tell you this story to let you know where I’m at in
my culinary development and how
drastically it will affect my
presentations to all of you in my time
to come here with you. I consider the
opportunity to present to each of a
blessing that I have been granted.
Considering the last two weeks I feel
compelled to change some of the things
I’ve been feeding you to conform to the
healthier way of doing things. From now
on, I want to include nutritional
information about the dishes I’m
offering. This will provide better ways
to give you a more informed way to make
decisions about what you put in your
body. Food is a funny thing in that way.
As I look back at my relationship with
it shows me how it has changed my life
on several occasions. This is but one
more of them. Until the next time, may
God Bless each and every one of you.
Diabetically yours,
Xander - The Food Dude
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Xander's Recipe of the Month |
Beef and Broccoli Stroganoff
Ingredients:
1 pound frozen round steak, partially
thawed
6 tablespoons all-purpose flour, divided
Cooking spray
1 tablespoon canola oil
1 clove garlic, minced
4 ounces fresh mushrooms, sliced
1 small onion, finely diced
2 tablespoons reduced-calorie margarine
1 tablespoon Worcestershire sauce
1/4 teaspoon black pepper
1/2 teaspoon dry dill weed
1 cube reduced-sodium beef bouillon
dissolved in 1 1/2 cups warm water
1 cup fat-free sour cream
2 cups lightly steamed small broccoli
florets
4 cups cooked cholesterol-free egg
noodles (about 12 ounces dry)
Directions:
Remove fat from steak and slice meat across the grain
into bite-size pieces. Place 3
tablespoons of flour in a large, zip-top
plastic bag. Add meat and shake to coat.
Spray a large nonstick skillet with
cooking spray. Add oil and warm over
medium heat. Add meat and brown on both
sides. Stir in garlic, mushrooms, and
onion; cook for 5 minutes. Add margarine
and cook until melted. Stir in 2
tablespoons of flour until liquid forms
a paste. Stir in Worcestershire sauce,
pepper, dill weed, and bouillon
dissolved in water. Continue cooking
uncovered for 10 minutes, stirring
frequently. Mix remaining 1 tablespoon
of flour into the sour cream, then add
to meat mixture. Cook for 5 minutes,
stirring frequently, but do not boil.
Toss in steamed broccoli. Place cooked
noodles on a serving dish and top with
meat mixture.
Yield: 8 servings
Preparation time: 20 minutes
Cooking time: 30 minutes
Yield: 8 servings Serving size: 1/8 of
recipe
Per Serving:
Calories: 267
Carbohydrate: 32 g
Protein: 19 g
Fat: 7 g
Saturated fat: 2 g
Sodium: 190 mg
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An Illusion for the Soul
BBW Author Thayne Hudson
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NOTE:
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professional or to solve your problems. I can however
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Q:
Dear Raqui, I am looking for a seat belt extender
before i buy my car. The dealership wasn't to
helpful. Can you help me?
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I found a great site for you look under products of the
month this month. If the dealership wasn't to
helpful I say they suck and move to another dealership.
If they cant help with a damn seat belt then they are
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Hey
Raqui, you often talk about being healthy and big.
How can a big person be healthy. Isn't being fat a
health problem.
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Raqui:
I am
a very fat person as most people in normal society would
see me. Yet I don't have any health problems and I
am in my early 30's. I know many skinny persons
with numerous health problems. The fact is there
is not one healthy problem that only fat people get.
The problem is that doctors and machines in hospitals
are not equipped for the larger person. But now
they are starting to get with the program. They
realize that they will have to take care of the large in
body. It wouldn't be so hard to take care of big
people if they have the equipment to do so.
I believe eating properly going to the doctor and some
exercise help a lot. I am not perfect as far as
eating healthy, I like candy and cake too. But I
try, I don't eat fried food normally, I don't eat
a lot of salt, I try to herb it up. I do try
to push myself when I walk and move a little faster than
i want to. I stretch a lot at home. I do
know my weakness for candy and cake and try to not over
do it. I do indulge sometimes and I try to make
good choices when I eat take out or fast food.
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You are so
beautiful. I wish I could have as much confidence in
myself as you do in yourself. I know that I am a great
person, but sometimes it seems to me like some people
can't seem to look past my weight. Have you always had
this much confidence or what does it take to get it?
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Confidence was something I worked hard to keep. No
matter how people tried to put me down. Society
and strangers couldn't put me down but it was the people
who were close to me (boyfriends) that hurt me the most
and tore me down.
Once you figure out who affects you and how they affect
you, then you can become strong and fight against those
who can cause you harm.
Over all you have to believe in yourself. Don't
see weight as who you are. You are a person and
live your life doing all the things that make you happy
and proud. If your not sure what those things are
then it is time to begin to try and find out. Your
body is beautiful because it is unique and so is your
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Are there any good places online to purchase Plus Sized
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Raqui:
I think i got a few
nice links for you. You can also email companies
and find out if they make extenders for things like
necklaces and bracelets.
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BBW/BHM Fashion of the
Month
We all hate how the Fashion Industry is just scratching the
surface when it comes to Large Sized Fashion. But I have
found out that many clothing stores and online companies are
beginning to take up the slack. Creative BBW, SSBBW and
BHM's are making there own clothing or mix matching and finding
basic everyday wear and night club wear.
Making it affordable is what can be hard so showcase your
wonderful finds here. If your a regular shopper, sew your
own clothing or a designer showcase your clothing here by
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Fashion Find
by: Raqui
Fashion Type:
Swimsuit
Fashion Breakdown:
I
picked this swimsuit as a Fashion favorite of mine
for this issue. I like he print and the option of:
Swim
Brief,
Lined
Swim shorts
Swim
Boyshorts
(see on site)
or
Chloroban Duo Shorts
(see on site)
Sizes
up to 6XL
Solid
colors also available
For
Pricing check out the site under Swim Separates.
http://www.junonia.com
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What is good for Big Sized
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helpful for big bodies. Keep your self straight with some of our tips
and tricks. Find out what other Big Sized people use to keep themselves
smelling, feeling, looking, and living a proper life. What kind of
products are allowed. Anything that deal with the body. From cleaning aids
to soap, lotions, powder, healing aids etc. anything that can help a
big body!
NOTE:
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something that worked for them. We are not held responsible for there
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Name of Product: Seat Belt Extender
Type of Product: Car Safety
Cost of Product: depending on Style
Where Product can be found: www.gotbelts.com
Description: Extender to install in your vehicle so that those who are larger can buckle up.
Why I like this Product: Since vehicle seat belts are not built to meet the requirements of
the larger population. We as drivers and passengers need to take our safety into our own
hands. I like this product because it seems much safer than other snap on products. Yes you
have to have it installed or you can install it yourself. But it is worth it since seat belt's save lives.
I really like that you can build your own belt on this site.
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