Chubby Women Challenges notions of Traditional Beauty
Chinese sculptures turning heads in
Watch above News report.
With Asian art becoming increasingly
prominent in Australia, one of China's most accomplished
sculptors has brought his latest work to the country.
Xu Hongfei says his art, "Chubby
Women", challenges the traditional notions of beauty.
who is Xu Hongfei?
Born in 1963, Xu Hongfei studied sculpture
at the Guangzhou Academy of Fine Arts and continues to be a
major influence on young Chinese artists through his role as
President of the Guangzhou Academy of Sculpture.
been involved in numerous public sculpture projects in different
parts of China since the 1990s. Internationally he has held
exhibitions in France, Hong Kong and Thailand.
the Paris Eighth District Government invited Xu to hold a solo
exhibition in the French capital. While later that same year the
International Olympic Committee selected him as the only
sculptor representing China at the “Olympic Sport & Art
Exhibition”. His work “A Merry Victory” is on display at IOC
Headquarters in Lausanne, Switzerland.
Much of the
inspiration for Xu Hongfei’s contemporary work is drawn from his
friendship with Chinese master Huang Yongyu, who has produced
numerous acclaimed works in calligraphy, oil painting,
watercolour, ink painting and woodcuts. Huang’s works are
currently hung at the Art Gallery of New South Wales and the
Queensland Art Gallery | Gallery of Modern Art.
late 1990s Xu Hongfei and Huang Yongyu discussed a new direction
for his art, the result was his acclaimed “Chubby Women” series
– a collection that has now grown to over 100 pieces.
this series, Xu searches for beauty from daily life and found
liberty and enchantment in portraying Chubby Women. He looks for
a unique and creative perspective in an all natural way. Xu is
certain about the beauty in them and pays a lot of respect to
them, respect to the human body with a philosophical stance. He
considers that each person has the right to enjoy one’s own body
and be confident and contented about it.
believes “art should be fun and amusing” and has combined
traditional and contemporary spirit of art in this series. His
Chubby Women are independent and live their lives with both
purpose and enjoyment. His meticulous use of white marbles,
precious wood and bronze in portraying these figures have left
viewers and art pursuers with new dimension to beauty in a
See more of Xu Hongfei’s work and learn about him at:
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COVER MODEL INTERVIEW
LargeInCharge.com: What is your name?
Janelle but I’m well-known as Chica Plush online (i.e. Facebook,
Twitter, Tagged, etc.)
LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from and
what is your current Location?
Originally, I’m from Brooklyn, NY but moved to the Tampa Bay Area in
Florida when I was 11 years old; so, I’m a native Floridian. ;-)
LargeInCharge.com: Can you give us some
information about yourself (Age, Height, Size, Nationality, Marital
Status, Children, etc.)?
September 17, 1977 | Age 35 | Virgo
Heightis 5’ 7” without
Size ranges from 20-22
Nationality is Argentinean, Puerto Rican and a small percentage of
In a relationship
No children, however, I have to Pugs so they count as my kids ;-)
LargeInCharge.com: Were you a big child, or
did you gain weight later in life?
When I was young, I was always the “biggest” among my cousins and
friends. When I look back at my pictures, I realized I wasn’t that
fat as how everyone perceived me to be. Now, I wish I was that “fat”
back then. LOL I’m much bigger now than when I was a teenager or in
LargeInCharge.com: (If you were a big child)
how did you feel growing up as a large child?
Since everyone made me feel as if I was a big child, I felt awkward
in crowds or with my skinny cousins. I always admired their clothes
and how nice they looked; meanwhile, I was wearing oversized shirts
to cover my butt and tried to avoid wearing shorts as much as I can
to prevent showing my legs.
LargeInCharge.com: (If you gained weight
later in life) what caused you to gain weight and how did you feel
My weight gain was due to convenience of fast food. I very often
stay up late at night and have a difficult time in the morning to
get up on time. So, I would daily visit McDonald’s for breakfast or
lunch and then I work late, so again, I order fast food for dinner
or get Chinese take-out. Since I eat so late at night, I don’t move
around a lot to burn some of it off. Instead, I lay down in bed or
on my couch which is not good at all!
LargeInCharge.com: What made you decide to
enter the LargeInCharge model search?
This model search represents size-acceptance which I do my best in
portraying when I post positive messages online. I also co-manage
BBW & BHM Club Plush in Tampa, FL and it always feels good when my
patrons tell me that they feel welcomed, accepted and how there’s no
judgment due to their weight size. They always have a good time and
make new friends. My sister & manager, Camille (aka Latin Breeze)
and I do our best to provide an environment where they can be
themselves. If I was on the cover, it would enhance my ability to
show everyone in the community that no matter your size, you can be
a part of anything when you strive for it! I don’t want anyone to
feel that their weight should hold them back in doing whatever their
LargeInCharge.com: Did you find it a hard
journey to be accepted for your size, and do you find acceptance
among your family and friends?
Yes, it’s a hard journey to be accepted of my size. Outside of the
plus-size community, I tend to feel awkward among skinny people when
I go to a store, restaurant, or clubs. But then I realize I don’t
care what these people think of my size so I shake it off, put my
chin up, and walk in with confidence. My friends are true and they
accept me as I am. However, there is judgment with my family that me
and my sister face every-so-often, but we encourage each other and
we keep it moving!
LargeInCharge.com: What would you say
inspires you most in life?
Honestly, what inspires me are the positive messages/posts and
pictures I see of plus-size women looking all sorts of fabulous!
Just because you’re big doesn’t mean you can’t wear just as
beautiful clothes, flattering outfits, have nice hair styles and
LargeInCharge.com: What is your primary
occupation, and how did you get into this line of work?
For over 10 years, I worked in the magazine publishing industry. I
loved working for magazines such as the duPont Registry of Fine
Automobiles, Makes & Models Magazine and South Tampa Magazine. I
would handle the advertisements for each publication, circulation,
press checks, dealt the printers & newsstands, etc. But the instant
access to news and articles on the internet hurt sales in the
(paper) publishing industry, so therefore, I was laid off. Since
then, I’ve been working for a company that hosts conferences and
trade shows on aboveground & underground storage tanks nationwide. I
handle their marketing and get to do some traveling. When I travel
to different states, I take the opportunity to have a BBW meet up
somewhere while I’m visiting. ;-)
LargeInCharge.com: Do you find acceptance in
the work force?
At my office, my size really isn’t an issue. However, when I do my
travels to the conference and trade shows, it’s a male dominate
industry and I get looked at a lot as I walk by the exhibit booths
and I can see that they’re checking me out making me feel like
they’re thinking “she’s big or look how big her butt/legs are, etc.”
I do ignore those looks and keep a smile on my face. I always have a
professional demeanor and I approach them no differently than anyone
else. I remain friendly and cordial with everyone regardless if I
feel they are judging me according to my size.
LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you
believe should take place for Large People in the work force?
Changes in the workplace ultimately results in the person. People
sometimes feed on the vibe you give off. If your demeanor,
confidence, and professional approach are positive and upbeat, they
will no longer see your size and see you as a person. If you’re over
weight, don’t put yourself down or criticize yourself in front of
others. They feed on that negativity too and will say the same about
you. Your attitude in the workforce or anywhere for that matter will
change the outlook of how people see/treat you!
LargeInCharge.com: What do you think about
the fashion industry for big sized clothing?
·The changes in the fashion industry for big
sized clothing are fantastic!! I see a lot of pictures of runways,
pageants, and clothing lines all the time and I love the style and
use of colors. Most of the clothes are so flattering for women that
have curves, big thighs or a belly. I’m constantly seeing
improvements in this industry and I can’t wait till it becomes
completely main stream.
LargeInCharge.com: What do you wish to see
change with the fashion industry?
So far, I’ve seen everything from hats, tops, bottoms, swim suits,
casual wear, nightgowns, club attire, and shoes for plus-size women!
The change I would like to see is having more of these items in an
actual store than online and runways. Also, I understand that some
clothing lines price their clothes high due to demand, but I would
like to see more reasonable price clothes too.
LargeInCharge.com: Tell us some of the
places you buy your clothing from.Do you have any beauty tips.
Most of the clothes I buy from are DOTS and Ross. Both stores are
hit or miss but they’re reasonably priced, trendy, and flattering
plus they’re convenient to where I live and work.
As for beauty tips, wear low cut or v-neck tops/dresses. Round neck
tops are not always flattering especially if you have broad
shoulders like I do. As a personal preference, try to always wear
mascara or false eyelashes. I think it’s such a great feminine look
that instantly brings out your eyes which are most men’s favorite
feature on a woman. ;-)
LargeInCharge.com:How do you prepare for a Photo shoot?What should aspiring models be prepared for?
Most of my pictures are taken from my iPhone. However, I’ve done two
photo shoots in my life. For those two occasions, I washed my hair
two days before the photo shoot because my hair always looks best on
the second day and it’s easier to manage. Apply extra foundation and
eye shadow so it shows better in the pictures. Practice your angles
in the mirror and find what looks best before the photo shoot.
Practice on your happy smiley face, serious look, slightly pucker
your lips, and always stick out your chin to show the jaw line of
your face. For your eyes, take pics of yourself looking away from
the camera, look up, look down, look to the side, and practice those
looks with different facial expressions too.Play around with it and have fun.
LargeInCharge.com: Look at Size acceptance
five years ago... look at size acceptance now.What changes do you see?
Five years ago, I wasn’t fully involved in the BBW community like my
sister was. She worked as a door girl for the owner, Chris Plush, at
the time and she introduced it to me. Before that, I had no clue
about size acceptance. I just dealt with the fact with I’m a plus
size woman and felt the need to constantly get on a diet to fit in.
After being involved with the BBW community, I see all the changes
that evolved and what a great support system we have and to know
that your size is love and admired by many! It was a complete 180
from five years ago and I’m so happy to be a part of it! I strive to
find others that were like me and educate them that their size is
nothing to be ashamed about rather to embrace it and feel great &
confident in the size you’re in.
LargeInCharge.com: Tell us about your goals
as far as modeling and other interests.
My goal is to continue growing BBW & BHM Club Plush and expand
somehow. Extend my marketing efforts to reach more people who are
heavy weight and let them know about the plus size community. So if
they’re feeling down about themselves, I want to let them know about
the great support system we have and encourage them to go out more
often. Not necessarily only to Club Plush, but anywhere they want to
and not let their weight hinder them in going places and trying new
things to keep the momentum going! In the future, my sister and I
intend in doing more activities such as a local BBW fashion show,
speed dating, clothes swap, workout programs, pool/beach parties,
LargeInCharge.com:Have you entered or won any Contests, Pageants or Awards?What was the experience like?
No, I haven’t …. Yet!
LargeInCharge.com: Is there a person in your
life that makes you keep going?
There’s not one person per se rather it’s a group of people: My
sister, niece, boyfriend plus my Club Plush team and patrons keep me
going. They instill in me that I’m beautiful regardless of my size
and the support & love I get from them is overwhelming. Therefore, I
pass on the love to others and encourage/reassure them that their
size is of beauty and to build on confidence.
LargeInCharge.com: Which plus size figure do
you most admire?
plus size figure I admire is Fluvia Lacerda and Rosie Mercado. They
are so beautiful and the styles of clothes they model are feminine
and gorgeous! They represent curves and plus size very well.
LargeInCharge.com: Describe yourself with
Thanks for reading about
Cover Model of the Month
Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge.com, Raqui's "Tell it like it is" style of
writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to
LargeInCharge.com. There is so much behind the woman who has
brought this magazine into existence. Being Internationally
known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies
and being featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the
world. She has made a career out of her size and personality.
Born and Raised in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by
For almost a decade Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.
With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to
individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet
world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her. Knock her
down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.
Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized
people online her grace and style has made people love her. Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend
the world to fit her, her way.
Raqui's appearances include, Uk Television, German TV, Japan, Europe,
and the Spanish circuit. Her many magazines appearances have
been world wide. She has hit American Television in 2006 with
Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Cristina Show,
The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.
This year LargeInCharge
has begun its 9th year moving toward our 10th. I challenged myself
this year by starting my own little quest
toward learning, giving, and expanding my own mind, by donating to a
new charity every month. I hope that you all will enjoy
learning about these new charities with me.
I began to
understand that most of us only donate to a charity
if we have an emotional connection to the charity itself or someone
who is trying to raise money for a cause. One day when I
happened to dismiss a charity that was asking for donations, I realized
I dont want to be that person. I want to give because the
cause is worthy and I can. Not only because of an emotional
connection. So join me in learning about new causes and
charities this year. I will post a new one to my column every
CHARITY OF THE MONTH:
END 7 - dieases across the World
Being raised in the US,
I never heard of the many diseases that plague other countries who
do not have treatment available to the poor, the same medical care I
have received growing up. I
remember my father and mother speaking about how they or others have
gotten worms from fruit as children in Puerto Rico.
parents, grandparents were spoken about, and my father told me about
when he came to the US as a child.Before coming to the US, he received treatment for worms in
his body.He was very
skinny but his belly was like a balloon! He was basically starving
all the time because the worms were eating everything my father took
into his body. He like many children in Puerto Rico ate fruit off
the ground that had fallen from trees.He recounted to me many times as I grew up how he remembered
getting the medication and how so many worms came out of his body
they filled a bucket. Yes my
father could have died from the amount of worms that had infested
That is my total
knowledge of such diseases and for some reason I never was educated
about such things. All I was told growing up is that you receive
immunizations, you don’t eat things from the ground, and you always
wash your hands so you won’t get sick.
I consider myself
fairly educated and quite resourceful about finding information.I didn’t completely connect or have knowledge about these
sickness.I am hurt and
dismayed that I didn’t have a full understanding these issues that
millions of people face across the world.Medical conditions that are so harmful yet easy to prevent.
Well Today I am joining
in the fight to End 7 disease’s buy 2020!I hope you will check out the below information and donate as
What is End
– taken from the End 7 Website and YouTube page
Here's the background: Nearly 1 in 6 people around the
world, including 500 million children, suffer from seven NTDs:
Elephantiasis, Roundworm, Hookworm, Whipworm, Trachoma, River
Blindness and Snail Fever.
What's different about this
story, though, is the ending. The great news is that all it takes to
treat these seven diseases is a packet of pills, costing 50 cents.
With the backing of some major players, including the World Health
Organization and the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation, we can
actually eliminate these diseases by 2020.
END7 aims to raise
the public awareness and funding required to cover the cost of
distributing medicine and setting up treatment programs for NTDs. A
big problem is that NTDs affect neglected communities -- the world's
poorest people. So END7 is about providing them with a voice to help
address a big problem.
We're on a mission. And
it's a big one, to end the suffering, of over half a billion
children by 2020. The solution is surprisingly simple.
Your donation, however small, can make a huge difference.
We’ve done the math and for about
can treat and protect one child against all seven diseases for a
year. So with $5 you can treat 10 children and with $10 you
can treat 20 children ... you get the idea.
100 percent of donations given to END7 will go
straight to NTD treatment programs in Asia, Africa and Latin America
and the Caribbean, the three regions with the largest NTD burdens.
donations will help us deliver much-needed medicines and will help
communities set up treatment programs that they can manage
We asked celebrities
including Emily Blunt, Eddie Redmayne and Priyanka Chopra to watch a
powerful new video. See how they reacted to people suffering from
neglected tropical diseases (NTDs)...Can you make it through to the
Most people have never heard of these seven diseases,
but as you'll see on the video, NTDs can be horrific and are a major
reason why poor communities stay trapped in poverty. It costs just
50 cents to treat and protect one person for an entire year.
Emily Blunt ("Salmon
Fishing in the Yemen," "Devil Wears Prada"); Eddie Redmayne ("Les
Miserables," "My Week with Marilyn"); Tom Felton ("Harry Potter"
series); Yvonne Chaka Chaka (South African pop star); Tom Hollander
("Pirates of the Caribbean," "Pride and Prejudice"); and Priyanka
Chopra (leading Bollywood actress and international recording
artist) are featured in the video and are END7 supporters.
This won't be easy. To end these diseases by 2020 we need to raise
money from governments and the public to transport the pills to
those in need, and set up treatment programs that communities can
run themselves. While the diseases have been around for centuries,
the global effort to eliminate them is brand new.
END7 is a grassroots campaign managed by the Global Network for
Neglected Tropical Diseases, an initiative of the Sabin Vaccine
Institute, to raise the awareness, funds and political will
necessary to eliminate the seven most common NTDs by 2020. The
Sabin Vaccine Institute has received Charity Navigator's highest
four-star rating consecutively since 2008.
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Angie BEE grew-up a standard-sized young woman, educated in
communications, promotions and planning.She became a wife, mother and ministry support member while
building businesses and her faith.
Through stress, age and a poor diet and while suffering from major
depression and attempted suicide, Angie BEE's weight climbed from
180 pounds to 360 pounds.She was diagnosed with high blood pressure, diabetes,
obstructive sleep apnea, an overactive bladder and poor leg
circulation.At the age
of 40 an anxiety attack and the decline in her mental health forced
her to stop work and look at improving her declining health.It was during this time that Angie BEE became inspired by her
younger sister Sonya Bennett during her process towards Gastric
launched this column and will return occasionally to contribute to
it, but now that she is three years-post surgery... her life is
focused on something new!
Now, celebrating her first year of a new life since having the
procedure herself, Angie BEE is healthier than she has been in over
a decade.Losing the
first 100 pounds was just the bonus!She is now diabetes-free.She has normal blood pressure.The circulation in her legs is normal.She sleeps without a c-pap machine and more!The joy that she feels is documented each day in her
syndicated radio show, a brand new weeklyTV show documentary and each month in this article.The Big GB stands for The BIG Gastric Bypass and it also
stands for "Getting (my life) Back".This article reflects how Angie BEE's life has improved... by
the grace of God and as the result of having Gastric Bypass surgery
on Feb 28, 2011.This
is now her life!
I'm Getting Married!
Can you believe it?On August 9th I will marry a man that has become my best
friend.I will marry a
man that prays with me and works with me and plays by my side.This man doesn't see a woman that "had gastric bypass
surgery".He doesn't see
a woman that weighed 386 at her heaviest weight.He doesn't see the former diabetic or the woman affected by
sleep apnea and high blood pressure; all he sees is me!All he sees is a happy, healthy evangelist that uses her
gifts and talents to spread the gospel of Jesus Christ and all he
sees is my joy.I'm
getting married and I couldn't wait to share it with each of you!
Getting my life back after gastric bypass
has always been the theme of this article.I try to share with you how my life has changed and improved
while I am losing weight.In May I was diagnosed with a tumor that was affecting my
health.I became anemic
and the pain was horrible.The doctors finally prescribed something that made the pain
tolerable and the medical treatments for the tumor is working!Throughout the month of May and June I continued to produce
segments for my syndicated radio show and make concert appearances
with The TOUR!In June
the TOUR performed at the Daytona Beach Juneteenth Family Festival
and although I was in pain and miserable, the Lord got me through it
with a smile on my face!
Just having my fiancé by my side made it all that much sweeter.Thank you Lord!
In July the TOUR took a break and I started
shooting episodes of a new talk show that will debut in September.The show will be called "Angie BEE Presents" and you will see
highlights of concerts, speaking engagements, book signings and even
interviews that I do with business owners and ministry leaders.Some episodes of the show will be featured here in this
magazine during the upcoming months, but needless to say I was
REALLY BUSY during the month of July.My Lord was leading me every step of the way and my fiancé
was with me too just smiling with support and love.Towards the end of the month he took me on a vacation to his
family reunion and we even dressed up for the 70's Party!OH WEE!!I had
SUCH a great time at the Jenkins Family Reunion!
Once the reunion was over and we started
looking at our upcoming schedule... setting a date for our marriage
was really looking bleak!The TOUR is doing a Back To School Concert event in August
plus we travel to Detroit to meet my family...I have a book signing
coming up at the Bethune Cookman University book store in September
and a speaking engagement later that month... October bookings
are coming in and then there are the holidays... when can we find
time to share our vows?
Sometimes when you are getting your life
back after a life-altering experience, you have to learn to adjust
schedules and plans and make accommodations.For example, after my knee was broken in a car accident years
ago I had to get my life back through physical therapy and surgeries
while continuing to raise my children.I just had to use the time I had and make it work!Later on when I was suicidal with major depression, I had to
go through mental therapy and medication while getting my life back.Life still moved on for my family and I just had to learn to
compromise and make accommodations. Now, my fiancé is a singer with
concert engagements and I am an evangelist with engagements, we had
to make adjustments to our schedules!Every weekend that we have been engaged has been BOOKED and
trying to find time for a ceremony was tough!
Finally we talked and prayed and applied for
a license and found some BEAUTIFUL rings and now that this is all
finished we decided to get married before leaving town for an event.The day before our Moms-n-Ministry Workshop in Ocala Florida,
Friday, August 9th at 1:00 pm we plan to be married!I am not stressing about how I will look in my dress, I ain't
trying to get my tummy tuck before I walk down the aisle... It
doesn't matter that we have an event that weekend.God said that it shall be so and I am OK with that alone!I am simply dedicating my life to be by his side while we
live our lives together and nothing else matters!
During Easter I took my fiancé to meet my
month my fiancé accompanied me as I was the MC of the Women In Red
pictures that we took with me in my red gown are STILL favorite
pictures on Facebook :)
We took pictures together at his family
reunion 70's party and next week I am sure there will be more
pictures while we exchange vows.Next month you will see them and I will post more event
flyers and continue to let you see how God has blessed me with this
new life of health and healing and weight loss.
Gastric Bypass saved my life from the
downward spiral of declining health but I got my life back through
obedience and service.
Now, my life is evolving to include someone supportive and I am more
receptive to his love and support because I have healed!My body has healed.My mind is stronger and I have forgiven myself for many past
Start loving yourself and forgive yourself
and watch how your life then becomes your own....with your now IN
CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE!
The Big GB - Getting My
Life back after Gastric Bypass
with Angie Bee
Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit
civil rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life
for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on
body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment
through public education, advocacy, and member support.
This Column is dedicated to the tremendous
work NAAFA has been doing for over four decades. LargeInCharge
wishes to support NAAFA in spreading the word of its work, and give
the public more information into issues we as plus sized people
should be aware of. The fight for equality for people of all
sizes is one we support.
This Column will include News Releases and
Calls to Action from NAAFA Directors.
This Column has been Approved by NAAFA.org
AMA Rules Against Advisors: Fat Now a
Against the recommendation of their
scientific advisors, the AMA declares obesity a disease.Many believe this will further damage the already fragile
relationship between physician and fat patient.
Patients of high body weight are one of the
groups of people who are least inclined to seek medical attention
because of the discrimination they face.
Physician’s weight bias, already a major
problem, is now moving beyond just stigmatization to clear dislike
and negativity toward the overweight, (Brochu P., Esses V., ). Couple this with the fact that physicians have received
insufficient or no training to address or examine fat patients and
are frustrated with the lack of resources available to them (Amy NK,
et al ), setting the stage for a powder keg of discrimination,
the likes of which we have never seen before.
Into this environment of bias and
discrimination, the American Medical Association (AMA) declares that
obesity is a disease. "The AMA just put its official
stamp of approval on the widespread weight bias of physicians.”
stated NAAFA Advisory Board Member Dr. Deb Burgard. “This act
furthers the ‘War on the Obese.’ Economic greed and weight stigma
have trumped science and the advice of the AMA's own expert
committee, and it is a sad day for the relationship between doctors
and their higher-weight patients…People are losing confidence that
their doctors have their best interests at heart…This decision
represents a clear victory of economic interests over science.”
Key points against AMA Ruling:
AMA turned away from science and the
recommendations of its own scientific advisors
AMA cited economic motives in colluding with
AMA failed to reach this decision with input
of the relevant community of higher-weight people
NO CONFIDENCE in the AMA
A reversal of this designation and an
immediate roundtable discussion that includes higher-weight people
from every community.
Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit human rights organization
dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people. NAAFA
works to eliminate discrimination based on body size and provide fat
people with the tools for self-empowerment through public education,
advocacy, and member support.
Some of you make know me as web girl/Lulu from Fashion Find. Well…
I’ve move on to another one of my favorite’s pastime which is
cooking. To get you all up to date on what’s going on. I’m currently
pursuing a graduate degree at Ashford University I have a B.A.
degree in Organizational Communication from Southeastern Louisiana
I am most passionate about cooking. I believe with cooking you can
always grow… I fried my first egg when I was 2 and baked my first
cake at 5. Cooking is an easy and dynamic experience if you have a
passion for a good tasting meal.
Motto: Cook with your heart not with your head.
If you have a favorite dish you would like to share please forward
with recipe and photo to
with Lucia Roth
to August! Which is the middle and the hottestsummer of the month and the best way to beat the heatis to have a festive picnic. Have you ever wonder where
the term picnic came from? Let’s look at the history of the
History of the
Food historians tell us picnics evolved from the elaborate
traditions of moveable outdoor feasts enjoyed by the wealthy.
Medieval hunting feasts, Renaissance-era country banquets, and
Victorian garden parties lay the foundation for today's
leisurely repast. Picnics, as we Americans know them today, date
to the middle of the 19th century. Although the "grand picnic"
is generally considered a European concept, culinary evidence
confirms people from other parts of the world engage in similar
So now we know the history of the picnic. What’s the best dish
thatcan go on thatpicnic table which is easy and take no time to prepare.Mmmm... how
about Avocado and Ham Sandwiches!
Avocado and Ham Sandwiches
2 loaf(s) (about 18
inches each) ficelle
2 tablespoon(s) Dijon
1/8 teaspoon(s) coarse
3/4 pound(s) Virginia
avocados, peeled and sliced
Cut each ficelle loaf into 3 equal pieces, and split each
horizontally along one side, leaving the other side
intact. Open the pieces so they lie flat.
Stir the butter, mustard, and pepper together until
smooth, and spread on both sides of the bread. Layer
with the ham and avocado, and sprinkle with the sea
Wrap the sandwiches with parchment, and tie with a string
to secure. Keep chilled and serve within 3 hours.
Ficelle is a thin, chewy baguette loaf. Substitute
one standard baguette for 2 ficelles: Just cut the
heels off the ends and make each sandwich a little
You can always double your recipe to hide some for
Ms Suga is a plus size woman hailing from Sunny South Florida. She
is a 24 year old recent recipient of a Bachelor in Arts degree in
Communication Studies. Being plus size for the majority of her life
she has overcome many obstacles to finally come to the point where
she is fully content with herself and her life. This self love has
also allowed Ms Suga the privilege of sharing her love with those
around her. She is very passionate about life and loves to help
Ms Suga likes to see herself as the one everyone can go
to for positive, inspirational and truthful words of advice and/or
support. She is the Beautiful Inspirational Girl that is blessed,
intellectual, trustworthy, caring and hardworking.
Ms Suga has had a passion for writing since she was a
little girl when she used to think of short stories about what her
life would be like as she got older. This is Ms Suga’s first
opportunity for her thoughts to be public for the world to see.
Excited about this column Ms Suga is also very optimistic of her
future in writing and promoting self love and acceptance in the plus
"I is what I is"
with Ms Suga
First things first let me put
out my disclaimer right now that this month’s article is NOT I
repeat NOT about PD, racism or anything of the like. I just
liked the statement and I think it applies to the overall spirit
of this column which is to inspire you all to be a better you in
any and every way possible.
Now...Can you believe summer is almost over
and school will be starting back up very soon?? I know that bit
of info doesn't apply to me but to you all out there getting
ready for another term in school...GOOD LUCK! I did my time and
am now attempting to pay my debt and I am in NO RUSH to go back.
Anyway lately I have observed several
seemingly random events that have caused me to wonder "where did
we go wrong?" The first two instances have to deal with two
children being murdered solely based on a person judging them.
Granted I am not here to talk about guilt or innocence because
it is not my place to do so. I believe we all need to and will
be tried for our wrong doings so it's not up to me to decide the
fate of anyone other than myself. My point in mentioning these
two instances is that two children are DEAD because someone
assumed something and the reactions to those assumptions were
The next instance is very, very personal and
the most I will say to it is that I've noticed that people, who
used to be closest to me, have decided to pass judgment on me
for one reason or another and as a result their attitudes
towards me have changed dramatically. These changes in attitudes
have caused me to reflect on my relationships with several
people and wonder what went wrong and what have I done to
contribute to the problem.
The final example is with this book I'm
reading the series is called Bloody Jack's Adventures and
basically it's about a girl living in and trying to grow up in
the early 1800s. So basically what happens in the books is that
this girl goes through all types of life experiences that no
child should go through and the main problem for it all is
because people treat her a certain way because she's a girl.
Now to anyone else these instances really
don't have anything to do with each other. But in
actuality...they have one major common denominator...other
people's opinions directly affecting one's life. Hopefully you
are still with me. For a long time I lived my life how everyone
else wanted me to. My parents, friends, teachers, I was breaking
my neck to literally try to be the person everyone else wanted
and I was miserable beyond words. Then came the rebellion when I
was like "F*** the world and everyone in it" (thank God I got
passed that phase). As our faithful readers know I use my life
as an example of my messages because when you know better you do
better. And now that I know I want to pass my knowledge along
and hope you don't make the same mistakes I did.
So don't be like Ms. Suga okay? Don't live
your life for others. And surly don't allow anyone else to cause
you not to live the life you want. My mom told me "Don't let
anyone steal your joy baby. If they are feeding, financing or
freaking you then their opinion doesn't matter." It took a while
for that to sink in and when it did it was like "Duh!" I is what
I is, or to be proper, I am what I am and that's all that I am
(Cuz I’m Popeye the sailor man!! TOOT TOOT!!!!!)
It's so easy for us as people to go through
life thinking we have to look this way and act that way because
we have so many different images shoved at us telling us that
what these people say is law. But you don't have to be no one
other than who you are! If you're a nerd that loves playing Sims
and other fantasy world games then go for it. If you want to be
a fashion designer, hair stylist, painter or actor Get the right
training. Perfect your craft. Don't let anyone tell you what you
can and cannot do. Now some stuff might not be for you but if
you love it and it's within your skills GO FOR IT! Be the person
you were born to be!
My coworkers call me "Bookworm" because from
the time I clock in every morning to when I clock out in the
evening I have my headphones in and 95% of the time I'm
listening to a book. Yea the clown me but do you think that
matters? I have 2 library accounts as well as an audible account
and I can clear a whole book in one day at work. So what? I is
what I is...a natural hair high-top fade wearing, can't leave
the house without makeup and earrings nerd that loves to take
pictures and will blow up at you and give you my last dollar
within 15 minutes.
hey I is what I is. So the question remains "WHO ARE YOU?" (In
my Cheshire cat voice)
Peace, Love and Hair Grease!
Kathy is originally from a small town in Michigan but has lived in
San Diego County since she's been 18 years old. Kathy
graduated from San Diego State University with a Bachelors in
Finance in 1999.
She has a real estate broker’s license and works as a mortgage
Kathy also owns BBW Club Catalina in San Diego which has monthly
night club parties and other fun events on a frequent basis.Kathy has been an avid supporter of NAAFA, Vegas BBW Bash and
San Diego BBW Bash and believes in size acceptance and health at
Kathy is a firm believer that people need to have a full life by
going to the movies, dinner, bowling, dancing and anything that will
make them a happier person and not wait till they are at the perfect
size to start living their life to the fullest.
Kathy is in her mid-40's and her children are grown and living
productively on their own.In her spare time she likes trying new restaurants, dancing,
modeling, bowling and spending time with family and friends.
you make more Money than He does!
We all know that relationships are hard
because of many different topics, but one of the top reasons for
disagreements, or discussions in a relationship is money.
We have to remember that back in the 50's, 60's 70's it wasn't
at all the normal scenario, that a woman, would make more money
than a man. The family structure was set up where in
many homes, the mothers stayed at home with the children, and
made sure the home was taken care of, so she didn't work like
many of us do today. When the women did work, it was
usually part time, or not what we would consider a career.
We were told that we would have to choose between having a
career, and having a family, if we were a woman. We
have found out that we can have both, if we really want it,
although we do have to sacrifice some time spent either at work
or with our family at times.
There are so many more opportunities for
women to be CEO's or CFO's of large companies, and support for
women to start their own businesses. I also think
when men typically made more money than women did, that the men
were also making most of the financial decisions, on where, and
when, to spend the money they were bringing into the family.
What happens now when the women in the relationship, makes more
money than the men do?
I think it's great that women are having
successful careers, making more money, and making more
decisions, on their own financial futures, but what happens when
the men these women are dating, aren't making nearly as much as
the women they are with? There is the issue of a
man's ego when he doesn't make as much money, and doesn't want
the woman he is with paying his way to travel, eat at
restaurants, or he isn't able to buy the woman things, he thinks
she would want. It has become more acceptable today
for a woman who is working, and making a good living, to take
turns paying for meals in restaurants, movies and travel, when
dating a man. Still a lot
of us, whether we are male or female, remember the days when the
man, was the main bread winner, and we have mixed feelings, or
are uncertain, of what is acceptable or not when dating.
What do you do, when the person you are
dating, doesn't make enough money to take the vacations, or
trips that you want to? There are many solutions to
this problem, and there will need to be an open communication,
regarding the best way to solve the issue, when the woman makes
more money than the man, and she would still like to travel, or
do other things that require more financial resources.
For example: if the woman wants to take a 7
day cruise, and this isn't within the budget of the man she is
dating, than she can go with a girlfriend, or family member on
the 7 day cruise. Another option would be to have
the man pay what he can afford and the woman can help pay the
remaining balance for this particular trip. There
are always things we can do when we are dating someone that is
cost effective but are also a lot of fun.
There are reduced rates at the movie
theatres for movies in the morning or afternoons, versus going
at night for full price. The drive in can offer 2
movies for as low as $7, at many drive in theatres you can bring
your own sodas, candy and popcorn. I think the main
thing to be concerned with in this situation is that both of you
are sharing in the financial costs as much as possible, and no
one is feeling used or taken advantage of.
Celebrating almost two decades as a Graphic Designer/Published
Illustrator, Jean Nerestant Jr (Jness) got his start as a graphic
artist in 1994, Still working as a graphic designer by day/ Jness
devotes time to his hip hop Culture, comic book art and Plus
One thing I have learned in forty something odd years of
living is that life is richly and abundantly saturated with
challenges that seem to be tailor made for the purpose of
testing character and moral integrity. With that being said, I
am sure that many of you might agree with that theory. Then if
that is the true purpose of life’s mountains and valleys, we
have to strive for that bitter sweet spot of righteous
unwavering character. This is the very virtue that greatness is
gleaned from. As complicated as an individual’s life can be, my
careful review has lead me to believe that there are two ways to
walk through life, with your head up or with your head down.
When you choose one of these methods of walking through
life several things happen. The first thing that either posture
can affect is how you feel about yourself. Walking with your
head down makes your outlook one of defeat. For example a track
runner would have a difficult time gaging a rapidly approaching
hurdle with their head down.
When attempting to clear obstacles, it is better to keep your
head up, because it makes a statement of confidence to every
onlooker and challenger. Hence the second thing that is affected
by your posture, the way you are perceived by others. Keep your
head up. In reality every runner can’t win the race but, how it
was run, and how you finish makes you a winner and a force to be
This month’s new illustration features a fashionable curvy
beauty, and diva in the making. This piece is called CONFIDENCE.
It makes reference to, how a person feels, how they want to be
received, and most importantly who they are. Dress your best, be
your best, show you’re very best, and don’t yield to every
invitation that comes your way to distract you. You are far too
valuable for that, Big, with much more to offer, beautiful in so
many ways and ready for the world. You are poised for the
challenge and confident of what the outcome will be.
LargeInCharge Hopes that you enjoyed this article.
Our writer and artistic contributor JNess will be taking a
so please enjoy his previous artwork and writing in
Hello there all my fashion loving friends. My name is Amy Lucas and
in this column I hope to bring you some new outfits that will make
you feel great and be Large and In Charge.
My whole life has not been devoted to fashion as my background is in
teaching Spanish, Math, and Science. I also have a master’s degree
in Central Office Administration.
With that said, I have been wearing
plus sizes for as long as I can remember so I do know the struggles we all
face to find cute clothes. I come from a smaller town in Michigan, which
means I have an even harder time finding plus size clothing in my area
since the choices are so limited; as well as, the sizes and styles each
Out of necessity, I started looking
online instead of just settling for the places here and have found that
other women could use the help too. I run a fashion group on Facebook
called BBW Fashion where I post something fabulous each day hoping to help
all those to find what they want in their size.
In my career, I've helped plus size
students and their parents to find fashion in their sizes that would help
them with their self-esteem and make them feel good about themselves. I
have also dabbled in fashion before this modeling for three different
stores, winning a cover model spot in July of 2012 in Large in Charge
magazine, and I was Ms. LBC 2008 for Linda's Big Connections in Chicago. I
look forward to showing you what is available in plus size fashion and
help you to look even more beautiful and chic.
Brial Gowns and Accesories
with Amy Lucas
There are so many gorgeous bridal gowns in the marketplace
a woman can find the dress of her dreams easily. Designers like Alfred
Angelo, Maggie Sottero, Allure Bridals, Bonny Bridals, and Mori Lee create
fabulous gowns that will catch your eye every season. Bridal accessories
can also add some sparkle and beauty to your special day and there’s no
better place than Etsy to get them. I have chosen some of the most figure
flattering and stunning gowns available to wear now.
No matter which you choose you will dazzle your friends
Jay Hansen and Heidi Davis are size-acceptance advocates from Oklahoma and
co-own Oklahoma's only social size-acceptance group,
Oklahoma BBW, BHM, and their
Admirers. Heidi was born in 1969 and has been a large woman her whole
life, just as Jay has been an admirer of such plus-sized women all of his.
Heidi graduated High School in 1987, which is the same year Jay was born.
The two met online in 2005 and quickly developed a friendship. In 2009,
Jay graduated the University of Central Oklahoma with a Bachelor’s in
English Education, and the following year he and Heidi started dating and
quickly fell deeply in love.
Heidi is experienced, blunt, pragmatic, down-to-earth, and strong in every
sense of the word, while Jay is intellectual, articulate, ideological,
contemplative, and gentle. Heidi is eighteen years Jay's senior and nearly
three times his weight, while Jay is 140 pounds soaking wet with a brick
in his pocket. He's a king amongst nerds and all things geeky; she's a
tattooed, rough-and-tumble, hard rocker to her core. Together, they are a
beautiful personification of the old adage
"The Skinny on Big Love with Jay Hansen" was started in 2013 with Jay as
the primary writer and Heidi as his muse and endless source of ideas and
inspiration. Together, the two hope to provide people with a new frame of
mind on love and relationships, promote open-mindedness and acceptance,
ask intriguing questions, foster conversations, and prove to the world
that titles such as weight and age, amongst countless others, should never
stand in the way of one's pursuit of happiness.
Grow the Hell Up!
with Jay Hansen
As you read this my partner Heidi and I are out enjoying the Well Rounded
Las Vegas BBW event. Hopefully I haven't snapped from the disruption of my
sleep schedule, Heidi hasn't tried to cut a bitch for waving hello at me
in a drunken stupor, or any other occurrences worthy of the plot to the
next Hangover movie. Of course,
one can only hope.
In our community, it's no secret that women frequently, and unfortunately,
lack the self-confidence and self-respect of women more conformed to
society's definition of "beauty." Because of this, especially at large BBW
events as Heidi and I frequently attend, there are significantly more men
of ill repute that seek to take advantage of women. Don't get me wrong;
there's nothing wrong with a healthy, active sex life, and it's not a
majority of men or fat admirers by a long shot, but it is still enough to
stigmatize portions of the fat admirer population and to warrant caution
for plus-sized women when a man suddenly takes interest in them.
The first is a type of man that exists in every community, sub-culture,
and social group on the planet - the cheater. Women in the size community,
for the reasons mentioned above, can make easier targets for these men
because of their frequent lack of self-respect. Usually, cheaters and
liars depend on subtly undermining a woman's confidence or coercing her to
drink more alcohol than she should to wear down a woman. In the size
community, society unfortunately does this work for them. The best way for
a woman to protect herself from being taken advantage of by these men,
then, is a healthy degree of self-respect. Outside of that, though, there
are some signs women can look for to protect themselves.
First and foremost just ask about their relationship status. It's
remarkable how many of these men are ignorant and self-absorbed enough to
just be upfront about their disloyalty. Other, smaller signs, however, are
safer ways to test the waters of a man's sincerity. For example, if a man
says he is "separated" from his wife, but that they still live together,
consider that a red flag. If he lives locally, but won't give you his home
phone or is unwilling to bring you back to his place, consider that
another red flag. If he's only taking you out to places far from where he
lives or is just simply checking the time far too often, don't be afraid
to demand some answers.
Other than cheaters, however, there is another type of male that is more
unique to the size community that women should beware. There’s no simple,
self-explanatory title for these men, but I refer to them as “moped” fat
admirers based on an old, offensive joke I heard from an equally offensive
man. These are the men that live by the ideology
“fat girls are like mopeds; they’re
fun to ride, until someone sees you with one.” The title “closeted”
fat admirer isn’t quite right to describe these men, because closeted
implies they’re just too shy or scared to even get involved with
plus-sized women in the first place because of social stigmas. A “moped”
fat admirer, though, is more than willing to hook up with a larger woman,
but nothing more than that. He is unwilling to introduce her to his
friends or family, he is unwilling to be seen in public with her, and he
rarely lets the relationship evolve much beyond casual sex.
Some people may claim that such a relationship is what they want, but
those that do don’t seem to understand the great damage they do to the
size-acceptance movement and to themselves when they accept such
treatment. Honestly, these men sicken me, and in some ways are even worse
than cheaters. Cheaters just have a generic disregard for the feelings and
self-worth of other people in general; “moped” fat admirers specifically
target the plus-size, further damage their already weakened self-esteem,
and reaffirm all the false, negative stereotypes of large women somehow
being undesirable. And why? Because they’re afraid of what others will
think of them? Because they’re afraid of being teased for being with a fat
girl? Grow the hell up!
It’s an unfortunate fact that there will always be people, (primarily men)
that prey on the insecurities of others for their own sexual
gratification. In a community where self-esteem, self-confidence, and
self-worth are as fragile and hard to find as it is in the size community,
it is up to all of us as members of it to stop this from happening.
Behavior such as this should not be tolerated, especially by those in
positions of authority. Our BBW group in Oklahoma has strict rules to
prevent cheating both at group functions and on our online groups. We
would encourage other groups and organizations to adopt similar measures
to protect their own. All too often though, the wrong men are not only
tolerated, but held up as role models or some sort of "champions" of male,
sexual conquest, which not only sickens me, but depresses me to no end.
Above all, these men are a testament to why any fat admirer with a shred
of decency needs to be an active participant in fighting fat hate and
discrimination in society, even if they themselves are not plus-sized. By
doing our part to fix misconceptions about weight and size, we can help
build the self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-worth of the very people
these men exploit over their lack of these very qualities, greatly
hindering their ability to do so in the first place. If you’re not strong
enough to fight the battle against fat hate then you don’t deserve to be a
part of our community to begin with, let alone experience the bountiful
love and joy of a large woman.
I was born in San Diego,
California on August 30, 1972.
Grew up in
San Jose, San Francisco, and San Diego California.
I Graduated from San Diego State University in
1996 with a Bachelors Degree in Journalism
(Radio-TV News) and a Bachelors Degree in
I interned with U.S.
Senator Dianne Feinstein from 1995-1996.
interned with CBS News during the 1996 Republican
Currently I'm a
Licensed Sales Representative with Pacific Shores
Real Estate, Inc. in Solana Beach, California
I'm Co-Owner of Club Catalina BBW Night Club
in San Diego, CA.
And a newlywed, married
to Kathy Edmondson as of December 31, 2012.
I am the father of one daughter - Safiyah
Edmondson (8) and stepfather to two young men,
Alexander Hernandez (22) and John Rhakman Macklin
I enjoy bowling, basketball, tennis,
football. I play 12 musical instruments. I also
design a web page for a real estate company.
Criticism From Within
with David Edmondson
It’s the summer time, which means most people are
fascinated with maintaining their definition of the
perfect body. Whether people choose to starve themselves
to get that chiseled look or fit into that outfit. While
physical appearance is a constant fascination throughout
the year, it is even more magnified during the months of
June through September.If you don’t believe me, check out other
publications and their swimsuit editions or turn on the
television and you will see the number of extreme
fitness weight loss shows, which have increased in
number on the traditional networks. Naturally, those who
are of bigger size are stared at, pointed towards and
hear the whispers from others who choose to ridicule
them simply because they have a lack of self esteem. But
how do you handle the criticism from someone that was
once just like you?
They have no doubt lost the weight and changed
their lifestyle and have fallen into one of the
A) This is how I lost the weight and you
need to do exactly as I did to succeed;
B) I can’t be seen with you because I’ve
changed my life with the weight loss;
C) You can’t possibly be happy with being
They are convinced that they have all the
answers because after all, they were once in your
position and understand the pressure and the constant
strain that being bigger supposedly brings to an
individual. This leaves you in a predicament. On the one
hand, you are happy that your friend successfully made
their goal and changed their way of living. However, you
don’t want to be pressured or forced to conform to a
lifestyle that you may not agree with. So how do you
handle the situation?
One way, is to remind this friend or loved one that the
decision they made was their personal decision and they
did this to make themselves happy. We need to remind
ourselves that happiness does not begin or end with
being smaller; rather it begins and ends with our own
self esteem and personal growth. I am proud of myself,
no matter my size and it has no impact on how I treat
others or wish to be treated.
Those who are
truly your friends or loved ones will love you know
matter what your size may happen to be. Those who
continue to ridicule you or try to make you feel guilty
about being of bigger size, the best way to handle their
criticism is to rid yourself of the excess negativity.
Sometimes, just lifting that excess weight from your
shoulders is healthier for your body, mind and soul than
any physical exercise you could ever choose to perform.