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In the fantasy and science fiction adventure
FatLand (Volume I), the
weight oriented Pro-Health
Laws of the US have become
so oppressive that people
seeking freedom over their
bodies have established a
new country where life is
good and scales are
FatLand: The Early Days is both a sequel and
a prequel, revealing a
hidden history as three
archivists set out to
discover how FatLand began
and quickly become aware
that someone doesn't want
them to know.
Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge.com, Raqui's "Tell it like it is" style of
writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to
LargeInCharge.com. There is so much behind the woman who has
brought this magazine into existence. Being Internationally
known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies
and being featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the
world. She has made a career out of her size and personality.
Born and Raised in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by
For almost a decade Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.
With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to
individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet
world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her. Knock her
down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.
Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized
people online her grace and style has made people love her. Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend
the world to fit her, her way.
Raqui's appearances include, Uk Television, German TV, Japan, Europe,
and the Spanish circuit. Her many magazines appearances have
been world wide. She has hit American Television in 2006 with
Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Cristina Show,
The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.
This year of Charity to those in need really
was a joy for me. It was something I never saw myself as being able
to do, since I have always seemed to be in such need myself for one
reason or another.With
my life change there was also a mental change and giving to charity
has allowed me to open my heart in ways I didn’t think I could
before. As each month passed I felt good about knowing I have given
to some worth causes.
But this month I feel better than I have the whole year.That is because I discovered MicroBanker.com.
You might have seen that amazing video of
500 women from Uganda dancing and lip syncing to a song by Jessie
Jay called Price Tag.If
you haven’t seen it check it out below.
I personally loved it and was touched by it.These women are not asking for handouts, they are looking for
some individuals who are willing to invest in their futures.For someone to donate the necessary money they need to start
a business or help fund a business they are trying to succeed at.Whether it is supplies to maintain and enlarge their small
farm, to be able to finance their work as a seamstress, buy goods to
sell at the market, or supplies to open a local rural store.They just want a chance to work and provide for their
families and they want to pay you back.
With MicroBanker.com what they do is go
into rural areas and accept business plans from women who are
their business plan is accepted it is posted on the Micro Banking
Micro Banker works to advance the location
as a whole, they gather at least 5 business ideas in a certain
location and all these women agree that the loans given will be paid
back on a weekly basis and will help each other with paying back the
loans if necessary.All
loans to be paid back within a year with interest.
The money you donate can be used over and
over again once it is paid back.So your donation over time can help many women advance their
This was something I wanted to be involved
in, so this month I choose a woman to invest in. I read her business
plan and decided that she would be the first woman whose life I
would invest in.It
feels good to invest in someone who is willing to work hard and I
believe in her.
CHARITY OF THE MONTH: MicroBanker.com
About SYPO Uganda Ltd.
www.microbanker.com was started to support the Ugandan
microfinance project of the Dutch NGO SYPO. We provide small
business loans to poor women in rural Uganda, who do not have access
to conventional bank loans.
Choose a business idea you’d like to support. Donate the small loan
amount here online and receive login details to track progress. In
‘My portfolio’, you can follow repayments of each woman you help,
see her business updates, and ask questions about her progress. As
her success grows, you can recycle the repayments towards other
women’s business ideas on this site.
business loans you provide here online allow women in Uganda to work
for a better future and escape the poverty trap of generations.
Loans of only €40-500 ($54.33 – $679.15 in US Dollars) are
enough for women to start a profitable business, with a very real
impact on quality of life for their families and generations to
The loans are repaid in a maximum of one year with low
interest, which itself covers the cost of sustaining the
organization. This way your donation can help women again and again
to start or expand their businesses. The project is strictly
The Women We only give out your money to poor women
who do not have access to conventional financing in rural areas of
central Uganda. Most of our clients live under Uganda’s poverty line
of USD $2.50 a day. We only lend to women because microfinance
experience shows that women generally repay better than men. They
cannot get loans from normal banks because they have no collateral,
no credit history, and because they usually live very far from the
Teamwork & repayments Women
receive loans in groups of five, each with her own business plan,
and mutually responsible for each other’s repayments. They apply to
loan officers in our small field offices, deep in the villages of
central Uganda. Once our trained officers are convinced of the
business plans, they appear on this website for you to select and
sponsor. Repayments are made on a weekly basis, usually in the field
offices. The women receive proof of their repayments, after which
the loan officer enters the transactions in an online system, which
lets you track your client’s repayments in the ‘My portfolio’
section of this website.
Loans given out within six weeks After you
select and sponsor a business plan, your client will usually receive
her loan within six weeks. Even if the other loans in her group are
not yet sponsored, we will use a contingency fund to finance those
loans too, making sure your client will not have to wait. During
this time, the clients receive simple financial literacy training
and show the loan officer the location where they plan to conduct
Your portfolio Through ‘My
portfolio’ you can stay connected to each woman you help throughout
the course of her loan. You can track her payments and keep an eye
on total repayments in your portfolio, which you can give out again
to fund other business ideas on this site. Twice a year, you can put
questions to each entrepreneur you support. Perhaps you’d like to
know how her loan has changed her daily life, what impact it had on
her children, or how she intends to further grow her business. The
loan officers will take your questions to the client’s next
repayments, and enter the answers online in your portfolio.
Your support is a donation Even though
you can recycle the repayments of the borrower into new
microcredits, your donation will remain a donation. It cannot be
taken out again. The main reason for this is that financial
regulators would consider us to be a deposit-taking bank in such a
case, and as a small non-profit we cannot afford the expensive
licenses and regulatory guidance involved. By enabling you as a
microbanker to reinvest the repayments in a new microcredit, we do
hope to show the strength and impact of microfinance.
My Investment - So who did I choose to Invest in?
Marital status: Married
Business: Local brew and silver fish selling
Annet operates a
bar and also sells silver fish. She buys 1 jerrycan of local brew
from Namaiba every week and transports it to Kakuba. She also goes
to Katosi Landing site and transports fish to Kakuba where she sells
She needs to
boost her silver fish business since the market is growing and there
is demand for it yet her supply is low. She needs to also increase
on the quantity of local brew she buys since customers are very many
and are complaining. In return, this will help her to improve her
Annet narrates that, her
father was against education and so never gave her a chance to go to
school. She started working as a house maid in Seeta for one year
and then later got pregnant by a boyfriend. Unfortunately the kid
passed on. She is now married and is engaged in local brew selling
I hope that maybe this Holiday Season you might find someone
who you want to invest in. Making it a part of your family, coming
together to help another and watch them progress and grow. It
can be a beautiful thing to share.
Angie BEE grew-up a standard-sized young woman, educated in
communications, promotions and planning.She became a wife, mother and ministry support member while
building businesses and her faith.
Through stress, age and a poor diet and while suffering from major
depression and attempted suicide, Angie BEE's weight climbed from
180 pounds to 360 pounds.She was diagnosed with high blood pressure, diabetes,
obstructive sleep apnea, an overactive bladder and poor leg
circulation.At the age
of 40 an anxiety attack and the decline in her mental health forced
her to stop work and look at improving her declining health.It was during this time that Angie BEE became inspired by her
younger sister Sonya Bennett during her process towards Gastric
launched this column and will return occasionally to contribute to
it, but now that she is three years-post surgery... her life is
focused on something new!
Now, celebrating her first year of a new life since having the
procedure herself, Angie BEE is healthier than she has been in over
a decade.Losing the
first 100 pounds was just the bonus!She is now diabetes-free.She has normal blood pressure.The circulation in her legs is normal.She sleeps without a c-pap machine and more!The joy that she feels is documented each day in her
syndicated radio show, a brand new weeklyTV show documentary and each month in this article.The Big GB stands for The BIG Gastric Bypass and it also
stands for "Getting (my life) Back".This article reflects how Angie BEE's life has improved... by
the grace of God and as the result of having Gastric Bypass surgery
on Feb 28, 2011.This
is now her life!
Let's Tuck It In!
I remember my grandmother telling me "Stand
up straight, hold your chin up and tuck in your gut!” I think I was
maybe five years old when she told me that because I don't remember
that the babies had yet been born; my younger sisters (the twins)
were born when I was five years old, so this was a "pre-sibling"
childhood memory. Now, years, later I reflect on that
instruction: standing up straight with your shoulders squared shows
leadership and confidence, holding up your chin reflects confidence
and strength, especially in men. Tucking in your gut
Somewhere in that lesson from grandma some
self-imagery was deposited into my life: how does that tummy look in
the mirror? Turn sideways and see if that tummy pokes out. If it
does, do some more sit-ups. Skip a few meals. Is your tummy so
large that, when you look down you can't see your "goodies"? I
reflect on these thoughts as I am recovering from my November 15th
tummy tuck which removed the excess skin that uncomfortably hung
after losing more than 150 pounds from the gastric bypass. I
met a man last summer that says he became celibate when his belly
began to grow; "If I can't look down to see my junk, I don't want a
woman checking it out!" (SMH) His self-image resulted in his lack
of a sex life with a woman because of self-imposed insecurities; he
felt that having a large stomach somehow minimizes the size of his
Since having gastric bypass surgery in
February, 2011 I have realized that my weight has gone from my
highest at 387 pounds to where I currently am at 205 pounds. I
realize that having lost this much weight means that my appearance
has changed and that my health has drastically improved: the
diabetes is gone, the depression is manageable through prayer and
counseling now rather than through a cocktail of pills. I also
suffered from peripheral artery disease (P.A.D.) so those swollen
ankles and feet are a thing of the past! I realize that my life has
improved and my image has too; but through this transition one thing
has remained: my belly!
The skin that hung on my belly, abdomen and
hips was a reminder of how large I was and a reminder of how sick I
was. The skin moved and flapped around when I walked in the house
and even smacks the top of my thighs when I sit down and walk.
Let's not even TALK about how that "apron" of skin reached the
opposite side of the bed before I did! Rolling over was a "group
effort" with that wad of flapping skin and there is no way for me to
"tuck in my gut"! Yes, I know; a girdle helped hold it all together
when I dress up and it stopped the flab from flopping around when I
walked up and down the aisles of church or my grocery store but the
girdle didn't help with the lower back pain! The pain was so
intense that at times I can't sit upright for too long; it even
creeps up my back to my shoulders if I am out running errands
wearing no girdle. I could maybe live with the unsightliness of the
bulge but I couldn't live with that back pain anymore. I feel like
Queen Latifah when she underwent breast reduction surgery years ago:
in an interview, she revealed that she could live with the size of
those curves but she didn't want to live with the pain. I feel ya,
On Friday, November 15, 2013 I underwent a
tummy tuck procedure to tighten weakened tummy muscles and to remove
my "wonder flab" of apron skin. I didn't undergo this procedure in
order to improve my appearance; remember what I told you last month
-- I look good! I really do look good! I underwent this procedure
to continue towards my goals to improve my health, quality of
life and overall self-image. I look forward to no longer NEEDING a
girdle; it diminishes my successful image by still needing the
undergarments I needed when I was 387.
My soul mate and I married in August. Bartee
is a good man, He is wise beyond my comprehension and he loves the
Lord. He has never looked at me cross-eyed because of my belly and
he has never suggested that I do this. You don't believe me? Send
me your number and I will have him to call and talk to you.
LOL A man that makes degrading comments to his wife over her body
image is not worthy of having a Queen for his helpmate! During one
of our first dates, I told him that I wanted to have this procedure
and once we started talking marriage, his response began to change.
He went from saying "well set a goal and do what you want to do
with your life" to saying "we are gonna get this done together!" He
even rescheduled our December honeymoon so that I will have time to
recover from the procedure. "I would rather go when you are up and
around and can enjoy the cruise than to rush you and have you
uncomfortable"; now THAT is a good man! We started taking the
"BEFORE" pictures of me in some of my favorite dresses and I can't
wait to take those "AFTER" pictures for each of you to see. I thank
God for how He is providing the resources for me to continue to work
on my health and I am excited to share this with each of you.
Please keep me in your prayers this month
as I recover from this surgery and Lord willing I will have more for
you next month. Much love and BEE Blessed!
The Big GB - Getting My
Life back after Gastric Bypass
with Angie Bee
Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit
civil rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life
for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on
body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment
through public education, advocacy, and member support.
This Column is dedicated to the tremendous
work NAAFA has been doing for over four decades. LargeInCharge
wishes to support NAAFA in spreading the word of its work, and give
the public more information into issues we as plus sized people
should be aware of. The fight for equality for people of all
sizes is one we support.
This Column will include News Releases and
Calls to Action from NAAFA Directors.
This Column has been Approved by NAAFA.org
Does the First Lady Support Bullying?
Does the First Lady Support Bullying?
NAAFA asks First Lady Michelle Obama to
reconsider any plans to participate in another episode of
The Biggest Loser to promote her
Drink More Water and Let’s
Repeated appearances on The
Biggest Loser imply approval of the abusive tactics for which
this show is well known andin essence sanctions bullying, fat shaming and weight stigma.
"I am concerned that The Biggest Loser
promotes short-term weight loss and does long-term harm to the
bodies, minds, and spirits of many of its contestants and
viewers--precipitating eating disorders, weight gain, depression,
and weight-based bullying," states Dr. Barbara Altman Bruno, Ph.D.,
LCSW, author and NAAFA Advisory Board member.
NAAFA invites the First Lady to sit down
with members of the size advocacy, eating disorders and obesity
communities to better understand the potential consequences of her
choice to align herself with a program that promotes stigma and
UPDATE - The above press release was
circulated on October 23, 2013.We’ve just received the following exciting announcement:
BingeBehavior.com and BEDA Head to the White House
Lizabeth Wesely-Casella, Founder of BingeBehavior.com and
Chevese Turner, Founder and CEO of the Binge Eating
Disorder Association (BEDA) attended a meeting at the White House to
discuss weight stigma and how it relates to the Let's Move!
Campaign. The intent of the meeting is to share ideas about how to
address weight stigma and discrimination in schools and to express
the desire of our community to participate in developing tools to
create a better understanding of how weight stigma impacts all body
types among program administrators. Size
and shape are not indicative of health and the folks in the field
need to understand this.
Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit human rights organization
dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people. NAAFA
works to eliminate discrimination based on body size and provide fat
people with the tools for self-empowerment through public education,
advocacy, and member support.
Some of you make know me as web girl/Lulu from Fashion Find. Well…
I’ve move on to another one of my favorite’s pastime which is
cooking. To get you all up to date on what’s going on. I’m currently
pursuing a graduate degree at Ashford University I have a B.A.
degree in Organizational Communication from Southeastern Louisiana
I am most passionate about cooking. I believe with cooking you can
always grow… I fried my first egg when I was 2 and baked my first
cake at 5. Cooking is an easy and dynamic experience if you have a
passion for a good tasting meal.
Motto: Cook with your heart not with your head.
If you have a favorite dish you would like to share please forward
with recipe and photo to
with Lucia Roth
Merry Christmas, Season greeting, and happy holidays,
etc…. Yes! Another year is coming to an end and a New Year is
just around the corner and I’m excited about what the New Year
will bring. “May old acquaintance be forgot” and let us forge a
new self with a renew spirit of love, life, and friendship.With that being said,I would like to send each readers of Large In Charge
Magazine and the editor Miss Raqui herself a humble thank you
for allowing me to bring you exciting recipes that my family and
I enjoy and even ones that was passed along to me.
So let me asked this question: Do you really want to tie
down to your kitchen? I know I don’t. Well… Here are a few tips
that will keep you stress free. 1. Start your cooking early.
2.Get a Smoked Turkey! And just pop it into the oven.Best tip of the month super easy dish “Sweet
Potato Casserole” Love! Perfect… just perfect!
Sweet Potato Casserole
3 cups mashed sweet
1 cup brown sugar
2 eggs, lightly beaten
1 teaspoon vanilla
1/2 cup milk
1/2 cup melted butter
1/2 cup brown sugar
1/3 cup flour
1/3 cup melted butter
1 cup chopped pecans (you
can use walnuts or marshmallows)
Combine first 6
ingredients. Pour into a buttered 1 1/2 to 2-quart
casserole dish. Mix remaining ingredients together
and sprinkle over top. Bake at 350° for 30 to 40
minutes, until hot and browned. Serves 6 to 8.
Ms Suga is a plus size woman hailing from Sunny South Florida. She
is a 24 year old recent recipient of a Bachelor in Arts degree in
Communication Studies. Being plus size for the majority of her life
she has overcome many obstacles to finally come to the point where
she is fully content with herself and her life. This self love has
also allowed Ms Suga the privilege of sharing her love with those
around her. She is very passionate about life and loves to help
Ms Suga likes to see herself as the one everyone can go
to for positive, inspirational and truthful words of advice and/or
support. She is the Beautiful Inspirational Girl that is blessed,
intellectual, trustworthy, caring and hardworking.
Ms Suga has had a passion for writing since she was a
little girl when she used to think of short stories about what her
life would be like as she got older. This is Ms Suga’s first
opportunity for her thoughts to be public for the world to see.
Excited about this column Ms Suga is also very optimistic of her
future in writing and promoting self love and acceptance in the plus
Am I Better Now?
with Ms Suga
Wow it is December already?? Jeez this year
has flown by. Let me let you all know now that this will be the
last article from the B.I.G. :-( Trust me I hate to part ways
with the wonderful readers and supporters of LIC but I must
close this chapter in my life because with the New Year comes
new adventures. And for Ms. Suga one of those new adventures
includes Grad School
So no sappy farewells from Ms. Suga only see y'all later because
you never know when or where I'll pop up, Now enough of the
As we close out this year I challenge you to
question yourself "Am I better off now than I was 12 months
ago?" I know I can truly say that you are a better woman now and
so much has changed. As we get closer to the New Year, question
yourself, "Did I do all if any of last year’s resolutions?" If
so what's next on your list of goals? And if not how can you
move closer to your goals? Life brings about change whether we
want it to or not so the best we can do is grab the bull by the
horns and make the most of it. With change comes experience,
lessons to learn and wisdom to be passed on to others.
My old teacher used to tell us "Every day
you learn something new whether you realize it or not. And after
all is said and done the last thing we do is learn how to die."
For my last article of this year I encourage
you to learn as much as you can in this life because you only
get one and when your time is up...it's up. Don't think I mean
go back to school or that I'm knocking you for not going to
school. There's more to education then what's in the pages of a
book. Learn new routes to work or a new recipe. Learn how to
love and how to forgive. Learn how to relax or how to change the
oil in a car. It doesn't matter what or how you get them just
take what you can from this life. Once it's in your head no one
can take that away from you.
I hope this Holiday season brings you
everything you need want. Remember tomorrow is promised to no
one. So laugh like you've never laughed before, love like you've
never been hurt before, and live like there's no tomorrow to
Be blessed my friends. Enjoy the holidays.
Until we meet again.
Much love from the B.I.G.
Kathy is originally from a small town in Michigan but has lived in
San Diego County since she's been 18 years old. Kathy
graduated from San Diego State University with a Bachelors in
Finance in 1999.
She has a real estate broker’s license and works as a mortgage
Kathy also owns BBW Club Catalina in San Diego which has monthly
night club parties and other fun events on a frequent basis.Kathy has been an avid supporter of NAAFA, Vegas BBW Bash and
San Diego BBW Bash and believes in size acceptance and health at
Kathy is a firm believer that people need to have a full life by
going to the movies, dinner, bowling, dancing and anything that will
make them a happier person and not wait till they are at the perfect
size to start living their life to the fullest.
Kathy is in her mid-40's and her children are grown and living
productively on their own.In her spare time she likes trying new restaurants, dancing,
modeling, bowling and spending time with family and friends.
The Holidays and the dreaded Ex's
The holidays are a notorious time for ex's to try to get
in touch with us and reconnect.Why you ask?They are alone and don't want to be lonely for the
holidays so they think about what ex-girlfriend would make them
feel the best and so the calling and texting begins.I'm not saying you shouldn't hang out with an
ex-boyfriend around the holidays, as long as you can see this
for what it is, then I say have fun with it.
I have seen friends in the past who thought when their ex
contacted them, it was because they were still in love with
them, and wanted to get back together.I'm going to say this is probably untrue about 95% of the
time because why would someone wait until the holidays to get
There is nothing better than reminiscing with a past love about
the time you spent together, but also keep in mind all of the
times that weren't that great.I would like to also caution everyone who decides to have
sex with their ex to use the maximum amount of birth control
There are so many babies conceived from having a fling with an
ex, and then you are connected to this person for the rest of
If you are certain that you want to spend only platonic
time with your ex than absolutely do not have him come to your
home, or go to his where you will be alone with each other.I would recommend meeting them in a public place for
coffee, lunch or dinner.The holiday season is the time for some extra alcohol but
how many times is our good judgment impaired by drinking so I
think nonalcoholic beverages might be the best option if you are
looking for just a friendly meet and greet.There are a few tricks to keeping yourself busy over the
holidays so you aren't lonely and can avoid the lure of spending
time with an ex.
of time with family and friends
to spoil yourself with manicures, pedicures, make overs and
party at your house for close friends
4.This is a
great time for reorganizing your closets, drawers and home when
you have some extra time off from work.
Volunteering your time at nonprofits during the holidays is a
great way to feel good and help out people in need.
6.Make a list
of reasons why you should not spend time with your ex's so you
are ready and prepared to say oh no thanks to spending time with
Celebrating almost two decades as a Graphic Designer/Published
Illustrator, Jean Nerestant Jr (Jness) got his start as a graphic
artist in 1994, Still working as a graphic designer by day/ Jness
devotes time to his hip hop Culture, comic book art and Plus
One thing I have learned in forty something odd years of
living is that life is richly and abundantly saturated with
challenges that seem to be tailor made for the purpose of
testing character and moral integrity. With that being said, I
am sure that many of you might agree with that theory. Then if
that is the true purpose of life’s mountains and valleys, we
have to strive for that bitter sweet spot of righteous
unwavering character. This is the very virtue that greatness is
gleaned from. As complicated as an individual’s life can be, my
careful review has lead me to believe that there are two ways to
walk through life, with your head up or with your head down.
When you choose one of these methods of walking through
life several things happen. The first thing that either posture
can affect is how you feel about yourself. Walking with your
head down makes your outlook one of defeat. For example a track
runner would have a difficult time gaging a rapidly approaching
hurdle with their head down.
When attempting to clear obstacles, it is better to keep your
head up, because it makes a statement of confidence to every
onlooker and challenger. Hence the second thing that is affected
by your posture, the way you are perceived by others. Keep your
head up. In reality every runner can’t win the race but, how it
was run, and how you finish makes you a winner and a force to be
This month’s new illustration features a fashionable curvy
beauty, and diva in the making. This piece is called CONFIDENCE.
It makes reference to, how a person feels, how they want to be
received, and most importantly who they are. Dress your best, be
your best, show you’re very best, and don’t yield to every
invitation that comes your way to distract you. You are far too
valuable for that, Big, with much more to offer, beautiful in so
many ways and ready for the world. You are poised for the
challenge and confident of what the outcome will be.
LargeInCharge Hopes that you enjoyed this article.
Our writer and artistic contributor JNess will be taking a
so please enjoy his previous artwork and writing in
Hello there all my fashion loving friends. My name is Amy Lucas and
in this column I hope to bring you some new outfits that will make
you feel great and be Large and In Charge.
My whole life has not been devoted to fashion as my background is in
teaching Spanish, Math, and Science. I also have a master’s degree
in Central Office Administration.
With that said, I have been wearing
plus sizes for as long as I can remember so I do know the struggles we all
face to find cute clothes. I come from a smaller town in Michigan, which
means I have an even harder time finding plus size clothing in my area
since the choices are so limited; as well as, the sizes and styles each
Out of necessity, I started looking
online instead of just settling for the places here and have found that
other women could use the help too. I run a fashion group on Facebook
called BBW Fashion where I post something fabulous each day hoping to help
all those to find what they want in their size.
In my career, I've helped plus size
students and their parents to find fashion in their sizes that would help
them with their self-esteem and make them feel good about themselves. I
have also dabbled in fashion before this modeling for three different
stores, winning a cover model spot in July of 2012 in Large in Charge
magazine, and I was Ms. LBC 2008 for Linda's Big Connections in Chicago. I
look forward to showing you what is available in plus size fashion and
help you to look even more beautiful and chic.
20 Outfits for the Holiday
with Amy Lucas
The holidays are always a
fun time of year since there are lots of events like holiday dinners and
parties to dress up for. Luckily, there are lots of outfits right now with
jewel tones, metallic colors, fur, lace, sequins, and rhinestones that
will help you to dazzle the crowd no matter where you are. Of course,
everyone wants to look nice on those days so make sure you check these
outfits out before they are gone!
Jay Hansen and Heidi Davis are size-acceptance advocates from Oklahoma and
co-own Oklahoma's only social size-acceptance group,
Oklahoma BBW, BHM, and their
Admirers. Heidi was born in 1969 and has been a large woman her whole
life, just as Jay has been an admirer of such plus-sized women all of his.
Heidi graduated High School in 1987, which is the same year Jay was born.
The two met online in 2005 and quickly developed a friendship. In 2009,
Jay graduated the University of Central Oklahoma with a Bachelor’s in
English Education, and the following year he and Heidi started dating and
quickly fell deeply in love.
Heidi is experienced, blunt, pragmatic, down-to-earth, and strong in every
sense of the word, while Jay is intellectual, articulate, ideological,
contemplative, and gentle. Heidi is eighteen years Jay's senior and nearly
three times his weight, while Jay is 140 pounds soaking wet with a brick
in his pocket. He's a king amongst nerds and all things geeky; she's a
tattooed, rough-and-tumble, hard rocker to her core. Together, they are a
beautiful personification of the old adage
"The Skinny on Big Love with Jay Hansen" was started in 2013 with Jay as
the primary writer and Heidi as his muse and endless source of ideas and
inspiration. Together, the two hope to provide people with a new frame of
mind on love and relationships, promote open-mindedness and acceptance,
ask intriguing questions, foster conversations, and prove to the world
that titles such as weight and age, amongst countless others, should never
stand in the way of one's pursuit of happiness.
with Jay Hansen
Inertia: An object in motion will remain in motion
object at rest will remain at rest until outside forces act upon it to
change its state
No matter how confident, healthy, or proud a person of size may be,
eventually mobility almost always becomes an issue. For some, this moment
is casual and expected; some may even look forward to it in a way. For
others, it becomes an unfortunate necessity that they bemoan accommodating
and can often put it off far longer than they should, usually out of some
misplaced sense of shame or embarrassment. The latter of these two
categories often view a walker, scooter, or other mobility aid as a type
of “scarlet letter” for the overweight, making them the target of the
scrutiny and judgment of others even more than they ordinarily would as a
plus-sized person, which is still far too great even under normal
Heidi is definitely the latter of the two categories, as are many
plus-sized women. Her aversion to it was so strong that even when her knee
was injured for reasons entirely separate and independent of her weight
she didn’t want to use the public-access scooters at places like Wal-Mart
or the Zoo because, and I quote, she didn’t want people looking at her and
thinking “ew look at the fat chick being lazy.” Mind you, Heidi is not
bashful or ashamed when it comes to her weight, and yet even a woman of
her confidence, self-respect, and self-love cringed at the thought of a
scooter because of the cruel, unfounded judgment of others. This is why I
ultimately decided to purchase her some sort of mobility aid on my own as
a surprise anniversary gift.
Now bare in mind, such a purchase is not to be taken lightly, and
discussing the topic with your partner, albeit mandatory, is a sensitive
issue that must be approached tactfully and compassionately. In talking
with Heidi I learned that she did not want a scooter because she still
likes to get up and use her legs, so a walker was definitely a better
choice. I also learned that she had borrowed a four-wheeled walker from
her mother in the past and she liked it, so I based my decision off of
that particular walker type. When it came time to actually shop for one,
there were a great number of details I had to keep in mind - some obvious,
Starting with the obvious, you always need to check the weight limit of
the walker. Usually it's printed somewhere in the basic information, but
you need to think critically about that actual number. For example, the
walker we ultimately purchased has a basket under the seat to place
belongings; how much additional weight might that be on top of the weight
of the person in it? Most walkers are sold with weight limits in
increments of 100 pounds (the next level up from a 300 pound weight limit,
for example, would be 400, and so on); is the intended user of the walker
near a 100 pound threshold? Heidi is somewhat near 400 pounds but still
under it, so I ultimately chose to purchase a walker with a 500 pound
weight limit just in case she gains weight or if someone else sits or
leans on the walker with her in it. On top of that, going up that extra
level also allows some of our larger friends to borrow it should they ever
The next stats I looked for were height and width. Heidi's not exactly the
tallest woman, but generally so long as someone isn't below five feet tall
height shouldn't be an issue, especially considering that many walkers
have adjustable handle bars. A bigger issue is width of the entire walker.
I bought just about the widest on the market, and I sometimes struggle to
maneuver it through doorways. If you have particularly narrow doors or
hallways, purchasing a walker could be a difficult task, especially when
taking into account user comfort, which is more pertinent to the last two
statistics to keep in mind.
When I was shopping, I noticed there were two numbers often missing on
product information pages; width of the seat and width between the bars. I
wanted to make sure the walker I bought had a seat on it so Heidi could
stop and take a break if her knees began to bother her too much. Many
walkers are more marketed towards otherwise disabled people, so checking
these two stats is imperative. I had to contact the manufacturers to get
the width between the bars on almost every walker I was considering. Heidi
has never been a particularly wide plus-sized woman, so finding a walker
with suitable room for her wasn't that hard. The model we ultimately
settled on had 22.5 inches between the bars, and like I said earlier, it
seemed to be the widest I could find. Because of how walkers are built
they can accommodate people who are a few inches wider than that, but if
the intended user of the walker is significantly wider than 22 inches a
walker might not be the product you're looking for.
The only other obstacle can sometimes be cost, but occasionally insurance
plans, Medicare, Medicaid, or other state health programs can help pay for
them if you're lucky. No matter what, if you're in the market, it never
hurts to check. I paid for mine out of pocket, but it was worth every
penny. I've never seen Heidi so utterly happy when she opened that gift,
and it has helped save her knees and legs from unnecessary pain and injury
on many occasions in just the first six months of ownership. Even though
at first she seemed opposed to a mobility aid, it just took some patient
understanding, willingness to learn what she wanted, and simple online
shopping time and her quality of life has improved greatly because of it.
She loved it so much we even decided named our walker T.A.R.D.I.S. both
because of its awesomely matching blue color and because it takes Heidi
wherever she wants to go (the T.A.R.D.I.S. is the very, very blue time
machine out of Doctor Who, for those of you who don't know). If you'd like
to know more about the particular walker we purchased, just
click on this link to see its page on Amazon (though the one we
received after ordering from this page has more of a pouch than a basket).
I was born in San Diego,
California on August 30, 1972.br> Grew up in
San Jose, San Francisco, and San Diego California.
I Graduated from San Diego State University in
1996 with a Bachelors Degree in Journalism
(Radio-TV News) and a Bachelors Degree in
I interned with U.S.
Senator Dianne Feinstein from 1995-1996.
interned with CBS News during the 1996 Republican
Currently I'm a
Licensed Sales Representative with Pacific Shores
Real Estate, Inc. in Solana Beach, California
I'm Co-Owner of Club Catalina BBW Night Club
in San Diego, CA.
And a newlywed, married
to Kathy Edmondson as of December 31, 2012.
I am the father of one daughter - Safiyah
Edmondson (8) and stepfather to two young men,
Alexander Hernandez (22) and John Rhakman Macklin
I enjoy bowling, basketball, tennis,
football. I play 12 musical instruments. I also
design a web page for a real estate company.
Tis the Season for Support
with David Edmondson
Christmas time is upon us once again and I am thankful
for many things. First, it will be a year, that I
married my soul mate Kathy. Second, I am thankful for a
venue to express my thoughts such as Large In Charge
Magazine. I have a roof over my head, clothes on my back
and have made new friends. It has occurred to me in the
brief time that I have been in the BBW community that
there are cliques reminiscent of high school. These
groups range from the popularity group to the jocks to
the musically talented and so on and so forth. What I
have not seen, (especially from men of size) is the
camaraderie that comes from supporting each
other. One would think that a group that has been picked
on by so many other groups, would be the last to turn on
each other but that would be a mistake.
Here is a true
story, one that has happened too many times before. A
man of size walks through the room to the sound of
snickering, turning into all out laughter as he exits;
while another man of size observes this behavior but
says nothing. Is it because he fears being mocked by the
same group of people? Perhaps it was because he was
somehow accepted by that group and didn’t feel the need
to help someone like him. Yet instead of taking the lead
and guiding someone like himself, he made that other guy
feel even more isolated than before. While it was not
known for sure, it would be good guess to say that this
incident probably occurred many times during that
I know this story because it happened while I was in
college nearly 20 years ago. I wish that I could say
that this story had a happy ending, but it didn’t. That
individual, whom was ridiculed for a 3 month period,
took his own life, by plunging three stories to his
death in a parking garage.Sure, everyone felt bad after it happened, second
guessing themselves asking themselves, what could they
have done differently?My question is why did it take that act, for an
issue like this to be talked about?
There are still
so many of us that feel less than confident about our
size and this feeling of negativity is even greater
during the holidays.No, you cannot necessarily teach someone to feel
good about themselves, but you can change the
environment and the atmosphere of that person
significantly, by just encouraging him. If you see your
fellow man is down in the dumps, try giving him an
encouraging word or invite him to hangout. No one wants
to be alone during the holiday season. I’m not saying
that you have to commit to being a lifelong friend, but
just a little gesture goes a long way. It may be the
difference between someone becoming more isolated or
gaining one more member into our community of size.