Catching up with Size Postive West Coast
LargeInCharge Featured People and Companies - Where are they now?
Jadox - West Coast Producer/Rapper
It was the end of 2004 when I was annoyed
irritated by email and werid guys messaging me. When I got a email from
yet again another guy saying he raps about BBW's. Lets say I was
not very interested, (see January 2005 article featureing Jadox).
Issue #11 - January 2005
But the song Big Girls by Jadox changed all that
for me on that day. I featured Jadox and we started a little
friendship. We talked on the phone over the years a few times.
We first met in Standford Connecticut, it was May 2005, after I told
Juantia Sanford (Size Positive Party Promoter) about Jadox and his buddy
Tofu (another size postive great talented guy) both West Coast Dudes
making good Size Postive Music.
Jadox, Tofu and me hung out that night in
Conneticut and we had fun. Jadox and me took a memoriable photo of
our first meeting. It became famous mostly because years later it
was stolen by a website in London called TheLondonPaper.com, who used
it, and imposed married couple Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony faces
over ours. The Theme of the picture was saying: What it would look like
if Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony were fat and ghetto.
May 2005 - Stanford Connecticut
Jadox and Tofu perform
Raqui and Jadox meet for the first time
Our picture stolen, illegally altered to look like Jennifer Lopez and
Our second meeting was also in 2005 when Jadox
performed in Mahattan NYC when Big Boogie Nights (a West Coast Size
Postive Party Promoter) did a East Coast event. Seeing Jadox again was
great and so was hearing him rhyme.
Jadox and Raqui
It wasnt until 2012 that I was able to see Jadox
agagin. We would talk on the phone every so often. Try to catch up
on social media. Jadox and I couldnt seem to bump into each other.
When I went to a West Coast event he wasnt able to make it. When
he attended I was not there either.
Jadox participated in a couple of LargeInCharge
Radio shows, I played one of his newer songs (Status Update) which I
keep on my rotation to throw in when I can because I really love it. I
always supported his expression and I enjoyed his flow and how he choose
his words. I was disappointed that we kept missing each other at
events. So when I saw that familar face and smile walking across the
dance floor to me. It was a total surprise I had no idea that
Jadox would attend the Vegas BBW Bash that year. I hear that same
voice call out RAQUI... JADOX... I replied and we gave each other
a big hug!
The moment unknown to us was captured by an
event photographer, you can tell when old buddies unite even when they
are not in contact much. I will always have fond memories of that
respectful, articulate, smooth, kind guy on the West Coast who stands
for something and found a way to express it...
Gotta Send my Love out to Jadox... Keep it
LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from and what is your current Location?
Born and raised in Bay City,
location: Southern California
When did you first appear in LargeInCharge Magazine?
Issue #11 - January 2005
LargeInCharge.com: Please tell us why you were featured?
I want to say because of my charm and good looks, but it was more likely
that I was featured because I promote Fat Acceptance through hip-hop and
you feel when you appeared in LargeInCharge?
Quite naturally, I was honored.I believe that may have been the first time I was featured in any
online publication.So yes,
it was special for me.
you feel now about being included in our special Decade editions?
(Once again,) honored, actually,I'm just a regular guy.(Are y'all sure y'all
got the right person?) :-)
LargeInCharge.com: How has your life and endeavors changed since your
Mainly I've worked on more positive music for
BBWs.That's not the only
subject matter I cover in my songs, but it's certainly a recurring
changes have you made to advance your career/business?
Making music has always been a hobby of sorts.Outside of continuing to network with other artists and
occasionally post the fruits of our collaborations, I've spent a lot of
time just listening to music, trying to find and share songs I enjoy.
LargeInCharge.com: How long have you invested in your venture/career?
I've been making rap songs since roughly 1995; my first “BBW” song was
released in 2002.
about some of the most exciting events/occasions, you/your business have
I would have to say that pretty much all of the events I performed at or
attended where everyone had a great time were the most exciting to me.
been featured in any press, on tv, newspapers etc?
To my knowledge, only the Good Morning America segment from 2005, I
think it was. That was the bash in Stamford, CT, if I'm not mistaken.
LargeInCharge.com: What changes have you seen for plus sized people
since your first appearance?
Believe it or not, the fashion scene/offerings for people of size seems
to have improved since then.Also, more and more people of size are being featured in leading
roles of movies, television shows, and even in print media. (Thank
LargeInCharge.com: Are there any changes you had to make for your
The only change that I didn't make was refusing to give up what I
enjoyed doing.I had only a
few goals that I wished to achieve, and I was successful in
accomplishing those goals.
LargeInCharge.com: What are some of the most important things you have
learned through the years?
There are two types of people in this world:
No one can really define what “normal”
There's nothing that can compare to the feeling of being “in love” with
(and accepting of)
I'm comfortable with being a positive-minded/optimistic person, no
matter what the circumstances.
LargeInCharge.com: How is your standing in the Plus Sized Community
among the people?Good
feedback, negative feedback, learning lessons?
Can't really answer that outside of:
I've got some people out there who
like my music &
I've got some people out there who
dislike my music &
I've got love for them all.
LargeInCharge.com: What would you say inspires you most in life?
While something inside of me generally “strives for perfection,” I think
what is truly inspirational is the desire to strive for positivity, or
positive change.I would
like for the world to be a better place for my kids, their kids and
ventures/items/products you have planned for the future?
I might record a few more songs by the end of 2014.After that, I might switch to producing.Then again, I might do something entirely different.Only time will tell.
LargeInCharge.com: What are your future goals?
To be able to watch my kids grow up to be happy, productive members of
society, and assist them in whatever way I can.
LargeInCharge.com: What advice would you give to other people of size
who might be interested in doing something similar?
If you receive negative criticism, that isn't necessarily a bad thing
(especially when it's objective).On the other hand, if it's being given simply for the sake of
being negative or mean, then dismiss it.
LargeInCharge.com: Describe yourself/ your company/org with one word.
Cliché (I know), but:
Thank you for
Reading The LargeInCharge Feature
Cover Model of the Month
What is your name?
LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from and what is your current
I am originally from a very small town in Northern Nevada.I currently live in sunny Los Angeles.
LargeInCharge.com:When did you first appear in LargeInCharge Magazine as a
I was the March 2009 cover model.
Issue #60 - March 2009
LargeInCharge.com: What made you decide to apply that first time?
I have been a big supporter of size acceptance and helping
women of substance feel confident and worthy.Back when I applied the first time Large In Charge
was one of the only magazines out there of its kind!I feel that Large In Charge has made such great
strides for size acceptance in the last 10 years and I was
very honored to be chosen to be on the 5th anniversary
LargeInCharge.com:How did you feel when you appeared as a LargeInCharge
Empowered and humbled at the same time.
LargeInCharge.com:Has your modeling career grown since your appearance?
I had the immense pleasure of modeling and acting for world
renowned celebrity photographer (and Emmy award winning
director) Alex Prager.I've been published numerous times.
LargeInCharge.com: Have your life and endeavors changed
since your appearance?
Since my first appearance in LIC so much has happened!
In 2011 I was voted 3rd best exotic dancer in Northern
Nevada [Reno Gazette Journal].It was actually such an honor!I was the only burlesque performer on the list and
the only plus size woman.I moved down to Los Angeles in the Summer of 2011 and
got my first paid gig after six days.I hadn't even found an apartment yet and was already
working on a project for HBO with really talented funny
I've been doing more
acting since I've been in Southern California.I've been in a few music videos.I started my own makeup brand in fall of 2011 [Mon
I've been working hard and being my unique
also refuse to take work where I'm reduced to a "fat joke".I've turned down people like LMFAO... because I just
didn't feel like the role they were offering was empowering
for women of substance.It's hard to turn down work!But, at the same time, I don't want to propagate
negative stereotypes or get type cast.
I had surgery last March to remove a brain
on hiatus to heal.I was devastated the day I got home from the hospital
and I had a call to be cast in something amazing.It made it hard, at first, to focus on healing,But, as soon as I was able... I hit the ground
I have a music video coming out this
Summer with FYI Psalms (a local rapper).The song is called "Gatekeeper".This video isn't your average rap video.The director, Thomas Spool, has a wonderful
imagination and envisioned a really gripping concept and
character for me to play.
It was seriously the most intense day of filming I've
ever been involved in.
LargeInCharge.com:What changes do you see in Plus Sized Modeling?
Back when I started modeling in the late 90s... being a size
18/20 was a SIN as a "plus size" model.Now that size range is far more common.Modeling agencies still look down on women over a
size 12... but, a lot of individual brands are breaking that
mold and making room for models size 18+.I sincerely look forward to a day when you'll see
gorgeous professional models of all sizes, shapes, colors
and ages in advertising and catalogues.
I know that there are a lot of artists and photographers
out there who really want to work with different body types,
wasn't as common even five years ago.
LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you see for Plus Sized
I think that society is starting to "get it" and we're
moving closer to true acceptance.But, most importantly... we're being represented in
the media more frequently as complex people with emotions
LargeInCharge.com: What would you say inspires you most in
Young women who yearn to feel comfortable in their own
can just inspire ONE young person to look at themselves and
say "I'm gorgeous just the way I am!" then, THAT is
everything to me.
I grew up really insecure and awkward.I'm honestly an insecure and awkward adult, too (I've
just learned to manage it better).My Grammy gave me a powerful gift: Self-Worth.
She told me "You are the only person you have to wake up
with and go to bed with every night.Make her proud!"That shaped so much of who I am today and I feel
inspired to pass that on to other young people.
Be okay with making mistakes and learning from them.Love yourself.Make yourself proud.
LargeInCharge.com:Any new modeling tips and tricks to share?
Water is still important, obviously. In my more recent experiences in Los Angeles I
can tell you that kindness is paramount.Kindness and showing up will get you really far in
And, I don't mean "be nice to people who are nice to you".Just be nice to everyone.Be "easy to work with".Be a JOY to have around.
You can be the best model in the world and the most
attractive woman on the planet.If you have a bad attitude it brings everyone down!Modeling is hard work.You are the one in front of the camera... but, it
isn't just about you.There is a team of people you are representing,
Makeup artists, brands, a photographer... and if you are
You all worked hard to get there together.You are all working hard toward a common goal. It's important to remember that it's a team
Also, Support your fellow models!Be kind to everyone! When one of us shines... we
LargeInCharge.com: What are your future goals?
I'm going to keep doing what I am currently doing. I have some big things coming that I can't talk
about, right now... even though I
REALLY want to!
I have dreams of
having my own plus size clothing line, someday.
LargeInCharge.com: What advice would you give to other
people of size who want to model?
If you are just starting out:Take selfies.
I know.It sounds dumb.But, it's one of the best ways for you to learn your
face and be comfortable with your facial expressions.
Let yourself be where you're at RIGHT NOW.When I look back at what I was doing in 2009... I see
how far I've come in five years.Don't be embarrassed of who you are and where you
forward and keep evolving and learning and growing.
yourself (or others) down.Your confidence and security in yourself is what
draws people to you.Don't fear rejection (you will get rejected a lot)
And, most of all... DON'T QUIT!
We need you out there making the rest of us look
an ambassador for people of size.
I believe in you!
LargeInCharge.com: Describe yourself with one word.
Thanks for reading about
Cover Model of the Month
Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge.com, Raqui's "Tell it like it is" style of
writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to
LargeInCharge.com. There is so much behind the woman who has
brought this magazine into existence. Being Internationally
known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies
and being featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the
world. She has made a career out of her size and personality.
Born and Raised in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by
For almost a decade Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.
With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to
individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet
world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her. Knock her
down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.
Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized
people online her grace and style has made people love her. Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend
the world to fit her, her way.
Raqui's appearances include, Uk Television, German TV, Japan, Europe,
and the Spanish circuit. Her many magazines appearances have
been world wide. She has hit American Television in 2006 with
Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Cristina Show,
The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.
In this world we live in, it can be hard at times to see anything
but the horror and insanity around us. News Reports, Crime
Shows, Newspapers, Online Sites and blogs are way more interested in
what is sensational and wrong with this world, without focusing on
what is good in this world.
So this year I dedicate my column to all that is inspirational,
positive and helpful.
Be a Motivator
Disabled... it is a word that is used for many reasons.
In general to be disabled is to have a physical/mental ailment that
makes living life more difficult. Whether it is a physical
problem or a mental one. To be disabled is often a blessing
and a curse. It means that you have to say, it is harder to
get around, keep a job, live in general. All your really
saying is you need a little help from time to time, but often people
want to look down on your for being disabled.
I dont think
disabled is a proper word, I like to say diffirently abled.
You may being missing an arm or leg, you may be blind or cant speak,
you may have more weight on you or have a mentel ailment that
prevents you from being able to communicate, deal with others and
making a living and holding down a job almost impossible. Still that doesnt make you a person who is unable, it
means you need some help/accomidation, or certain things are not
your strong point. Still that isnt disabled, everyone has
their strong points when they realize they are worthy, loved,
special just as they are, and ABLE to make a diffrence, to have a
purpose in life
That is why this month I wanted
to bring to you a series of videos from a man I truly admire.
His name Nick Vujicic, the man with no arms and no legs. Nicholas
James Vujicic (born on 4 December 1982) is a preacher and
motivational speaker -- born with Tetra-amelia syndrome, a rare
disorder characterized by the absence of all four limbs. He
struggled as a child, eventually came to terms with his disability
and started his own non-profit organization Life without Limbs at
age seventeen. Vujicic presents motivational speeches worldwide, on
life with a disability, hope, and finding meaning in life.
He found his purpose through his belief system and by not
allowing him self to stay down. He motivated himself and found
inspiration through his belief in a higher power. He
encourages others to do the same to find their, purose their
inspiration. His work with school children is very impressive
and that is why I featured him in LargeInCharge some years ago when
I found out about him. He is a LargeInCharge person who doesnt
see himself as disable but diffrently abled. He thought he
would never have a life, no arms, no legs, how will he work, how
will he live, thinking who would love him, how can he have a wife,
how can he take care of a wife when he cant even hold her hand.
Then he realized his real worth and has gone on to change so many
other people and make them realize they are worthy as well.
So today will you think about what motivates
you? What keeps you from being all you can be? What has
killed your joy and are you going to fight to get it back? I will
close this article with a few words from Nick.
“If I fail, I try again, and again, and again. If YOU
fail, are you going to try again? The human spirit can handle much
worse than we realize. It matters HOW you are going to FINISH. Are
you going to finish strong?” ― Nick Vujicic
Angie BEE grew-up a standard-sized young woman, educated in
communications, promotions and planning.She became a wife, mother and ministry support member while
building businesses and her faith.
Through stress, age and a poor diet and while suffering from major
depression and attempted suicide, Angie BEE's weight climbed from
180 pounds to 360 pounds.She was diagnosed with high blood pressure, diabetes,
obstructive sleep apnea, an overactive bladder and poor leg
circulation.At the age
of 40 an anxiety attack and the decline in her mental health forced
her to stop work and look at improving her declining health.It was during this time that Angie BEE became inspired by her
younger sister Sonya Bennett during her process towards Gastric
launched this column and will return occasionally to contribute to
it, but now that she is three years-post surgery... her life is
focused on something new!
Now, celebrating her first year of a new life since having the
procedure herself, Angie BEE is healthier than she has been in over
a decade.Losing the
first 100 pounds was just the bonus!She is now diabetes-free.She has normal blood pressure.The circulation in her legs is normal.She sleeps without a c-pap machine and more!The joy that she feels is documented each day in her
syndicated radio show, a brand new weeklyTV show documentary and each month in this article.The Big GB stands for The BIG Gastric Bypass and it also
stands for "Getting (my life) Back".This article reflects how Angie BEE's life has improved... by
the grace of God and as the result of having Gastric Bypass surgery
on Feb 28, 2011.This
is now her life!
Forgiveness - The First Step towards Healing and Recovery
Sometimes when you are hurt or injured, you
look back on the action that put you in that situation and you can
become angry. "Why didn't I turn left instead of right? I
wouldn't be wearing this cast now!"; "Why didn't I just go to the
doctor when this pain first appeared?". As we try to heal the
anger can grow to bitterness and then un-forgiveness. At
times, we can't even forgive ourselves for the weight we added to
our shoulders and hips and stomachs and thighs in spite of the
weight loss and the healing. The weight loss may have begun,
the diseases may be in remission but forgiveness is the first TRUE
step towards healing and recovery; it's time to forgive.
"Why did I eat that last bite?" I remember
participating in a surgical weight loss support group just before my
gastric bypass procedure in February 2011. The lesson they
taught that night was to measure out your protein portions per meal
and to strive to be satisfied once those portions are consumed.
They taught us to not go back for seconds just because the food was
tasty. They taught us that sometimes that extra bite of food
can be just the thing to irritate our stomachs (pouch) and set us
off into "dumping". Even with that lesson, I admit that the
fried fish I ate last weekend was truly yummy, and as I experienced
stomach cramps and light-and hot-headness, I had to forgive myself
for cramming that last bite into my mouth.
Forgiveness can cause you to look at a
situation in a better way! Don't be bitter that others aren't
doing more to help themselves OR you. Don't be frustrated
because the weight isn't dropping off as quickly as you want it to.
Don't be jealous because someone else lost more weight than you did
and resist the temptation to compare your life with another! These
examples can cause you to build a wall around you: a false wall of
unnecessary protection where new joys cannot enter. Think
about the friend that you haven't spoken to in years and the fun
that you could have been having together if you had only forgiven
I look at my flabby thighs and arms since
the 197 pound weight loss. The skin on my thighs now hangs
near my knee caps, and my arms are so loose and wobbly that
sleeveless dresses are no longer my option. The skin hanging
from my former "double chin" makes me look older in my selfies and
we won't even TALK ABOUT my saggy boobs! I know that all of
these cosmetic concerns can be corrected through plastic surgery and
that I was informed of these "side effects" before having surgery,
but there was still a sense of anger at myself and my personal
appearance when I looked in the mirror. It wasn't until I
began to forgive myself that I could accept my healing and smile at
There is a song that I enjoy by singer Toby
Mac that features Christian rapper Lecrae. The song speaks on
forgiveness and it talks about burning bridges and allowing anger to
deprive you of happiness. I realize that when I weighed 387
pounds I was angry about the diabetes and high blood pressure and
obstructive sleep apnea. I realize I was angry having to
inject insulin into my body and angry that my ankles would swell and
become painful from the poor circulation. I was angry that I
had to even CONSIDER having weight loss surgery and even angry at
God for allowing me to overeat to obesity. I was angry that I
never felt full and it seemed like I never had control over my
eating because of these feelings.
Forgiveness has helped me in SO many ways!
I have forgiven myself for not taking better care of myself.
Now I even try to exercise everyday while watching
www.BeverlyExercise.com and I am no longer focused on the next dress size that I
want to get down in to. Forgiveness has helped me to restore
my attitude towards others that have hurt me in the past.
People that have abandoned me or turned their back on me when I was
in need continued to 'live in my mind, rent-free' and I couldn't
even think about them without reliving the hurt and pain. Now,
I can see how forgiveness has helped me because the anger is gone
and I find myself praying for them! God heals our minds and
bodies each and every day, and as long as we forgive others that
have wronged us then we keep showing HIM the glory that we deserve!
My body is a temple of the Lord and I want my temple to be strong as
I grow older.
Recently I had an elderly relative become
injured as the result of a fall. She is still in a cast and in
a wheelchair a month later. I found myself becoming angry over
the situation because I had been talking to her for months prior
about the decline in her quality of life. She has relatives
that are trying to help her, but she wants to do it all herself.
She wants to live alone and struggle alone. Well, I became so
angry over her stubbornness that I didn't even want to call and
check on her! When I realized that my anger was blocking my
ability to help her or others... I had to seek forgiveness and move
forward. We have to take responsibility for our health and He
will bless us for it. Why am I blocking my own blessing for
holding onto anger over someone else?
In October our TOUR will minister in two
Florida cities. We will come together as Moms & Dads and
Authors and rappers to share our testimonies and give examples of
healing. I have been asked to bring a Word of encouragement to
the congregation during a Sunday morning service on October 5th and
the Lord has instructed me to speak on the topic of forgiveness.
Whom do you need to forgive? What has upset you? Which
situation has consumed your every waking and sleeping moment?
Can you see how these unforgiving emotions are affecting your diet?
Gastric Bypass surgery is just a tool in the overall process of
healing and weight loss and even Proverbs 23:2 tells us to avoid
gluttony! Now, let's use the tool of forgiveness as we
continue to heal.
The Big GB - Getting My
Life back after Gastric Bypass
with Angie Bee
Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit
civil rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life
for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on
body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment
through public education, advocacy, and member support.
This Column is dedicated to the tremendous
work NAAFA has been doing for over four decades. LargeInCharge
wishes to support NAAFA in spreading the word of its work, and give
the public more information into issues we as plus sized people
should be aware of. The fight for equality for people of all
sizes is one we support.
This Column will include News Releases and
Calls to Action from NAAFA Directors.
This Column has been Approved by NAAFA.org
Wolves in Sheep's Clothing
A special communication* that was published in the April, 2014 issue
of the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA) was
severely criticized by two so-called obesity advocacy organizations,
the Obesity Society and the Obesity Action Coalition. Why was it
criticized? Because the original writers believe that obesity is NOT
a disease and that two diet drugs currently being reviewed by the
Federal Drug Administration (FDA) should not be marketed without
more convincing evidence about the cardiovascular safety of the
Alright, let’s get this straight. Two organizations that are
supposed to represent the best interests of people of larger body
sizes want fat people to be medicalized and want to allow
pharmaceutical companies to release drugs that may:
Have only up
to a 7% success rate
Advocate: a person who actively supports or
favors a cause
Lobbyist: a person who attempts to influence decisions made by
officials in the government, most often legislators or members of
you research the source of funding for the two dissenting
organizations, the Obesity Society and the Obesity Action
Coalition, it becomes apparent that they are the bestadvocatesthat
money can buy for the diet industry, drug manufacturers and
Furthermore, these are the organizations that are being enlisted by
federal agencies to represent the interests of people with larger
body sizes as stake holders. Do these organizations represent the
people or those that would profit from them?
These organizations do not represent the best interest of people
of large body size.
went so far as to run a story with the headline, "Nothing about us,
without us," the rallying call of the disability rights movement,
and proudly pointed to the fact thattwo
people who had sought weight losshad
told their stories at their meeting.
The cynical cooptation of language that activists have used to fight
stigma ("people first" language, and "nothing about us without us")
by organizations whose agenda is to smooth the way for corporate
profits is disgraceful. The "War on Obesity" is a war on obese
people, and the spoils are more bodies to widen markets. If
people want to support the health of higher-weight people, the first
step is to work closely with members of the community to understand
our lives and needs. NAAFA and ASDAH stand ready to educate and
Weight-Loss Drugs, Lorcaserin and Phentermine-Topiramate
Slim Pickings?, Woloshin and Schwartz, April 2014 JAMA
Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit human rights organization
dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people. NAAFA
works to eliminate discrimination based on body size and provide fat
people with the tools for self-empowerment through public education,
advocacy, and member support.
Some of you make know me as web girl/Lulu from Fashion Find. Well…
I’ve move on to another one of my favorite’s pastime which is
cooking. To get you all up to date on what’s going on. I’m currently
pursuing a graduate degree at Ashford University I have a B.A.
degree in Organizational Communication from Southeastern Louisiana
I am most passionate about cooking. I believe with cooking you can
always grow… I fried my first egg when I was 2 and baked my first
cake at 5. Cooking is an easy and dynamic experience if you have a
passion for a good tasting meal.
Motto: Cook with your heart not with your head.
If you have a favorite dish you would like to share please forward
with recipe and photo to
with Lucia Roth
Kids aren’t the only ones
who should be having fun on Halloween!Adults need fun too.I say that Halloween is a proclamation or an excuse to
put on your big girl/ big boy panties as well as your dancing
shoes and party. Did you know Halloween outside of Thanksgiving,
Christmas, and New Year Eve is just one of the biggest parties.
Not to spook you out, but Halloween can be a
diet and health disaster if you don’t keep your wits about you.That’s if you’re watchingyour sugar in take.As you know Halloween is holiday of artificial dye- and
sweetener-filled candy, and a lot of it. I say the more the
It’s your party!Let’s start it off with…
Zombie Gut Punch
Bitters, blood orange and vodka poured from
a skull: the perfect punch for the brain-eating,
cocktail-swilling undead in all of us. Don’t miss
video footage of us dressed like bloodthirsty corpses in
10 ounces vodka 5 ounces Triple Sec 2
ounces bitters 1 cup freshly squeezed blood
2 cups black cherry soda Grenadine, for
In a large punch bowl filled with ice, pour
the vodka, Triple Sec, bitters, blood orange juice
and black cherry soda. Laugh as though you are an
evil zombie and stir. Rim each glass with grenadine
before filling with punch mixture, and serve.
Stagger around menacingly, and threaten to eat
Moving on to…
Saucy Spider with Hairy Leg Sticks
2 balls pizza dough (thawed if frozen)
1 large egg, beaten
1/4 cup(s) grated Parmesan (1 oz)
2 tablespoon(s) grated Parmesan (1 oz)
1 large pitted black olive, quartered lengthwise
2 cup(s) marinara sauce
Heat oven to 375°F. Line 2 large baking sheets with
Make the spider: Cut 1 ball of dough in half. Shape
one half into a 5-in. ball to make the spider body. Cut a 1
1/2-in. strip from the remaining half and shape into a 2
1/2-in. ball to make the head. Cut the remaining dough into
8 strips and roll each strip into a 6-in. rope to make the
Arrange the body, legs and head on one of the
prepared baking sheets to resemble a spider, gently pressing
all of the pieces of dough together. Brush the entire spider
with some of the egg. Sprinkle the legs with 2 Tbsp
Parmesan. Place 2 of the olive slices on the top of the head
for eyes and 2 on the bottom for pincers. Bake until golden
brown, 25 to 30 minutes (covering the legs with foil if
browning too quickly).
Meanwhile, make the spider
leg sticks: Cut the remaining ball of dough into 8 pieces.
Roll each piece into a 3/4-in.-thick rope. Cut each rope
into various lengths. Taper one end of each piece and
slightly bend the other to resemble legs. Place on the
second baking sheet. Brush with the remaining egg and
sprinkle with the remaining 1/4 cup Parmesan. Bake until
golden brown, 15 to 20 minutes.
Meanwhile warm the marinara sauce. Using a knife,
hollow out the body of the spider and fill with the warm
sauce. Serve with the leg sticks.
•3 pounds ground turkey or beef
• 1 medium onion, chopped
• 2 cans (16 ounces each) hot chili beans,
In a large Dutch oven, cook beef and onion
over medium heat until no longer pink; drain. Stir in the
remaining ingredients. Add water if desired to reduce thickness.
Bring to a boil. Reduce heat; cover and simmer for 1 hour.Yield:
Get creepy in the kitchen.
Celebrating almost two decades as a Graphic Designer/Published
Illustrator, Jean Nerestant Jr (Jness) got his start as a graphic
artist in 1994, Still working as a graphic designer by day/ Jness
devotes time to his hip hop Culture, comic book art and Plus
This month I present you with an
illustration that mimics the very familiar image we see every
day in the media, featuring the triumphant plus size woman who
found a miraculous method to lose weight. The “before and after”
photograph. My illustration puts a fresh spin on the scenario.
The big girl is the hero in my rendition, on the side showing
improvement. Now please don’t get me wrong, I am not against
safe, healthy weight loss by any stretch of the imagination. My
artwork featured in this article promotes a positive outlook on
the body you are in and most importantly at the size you
currently are. I don’t like the way weight loss pill pushers
place their advertisements in every area that pertains to people
of size. Yes, I understand its business. There is something
about it that feels more like an intrusion. They even create
Facebook accounts posing as regular people so that their sales
people can friend you just to post ads on your wall. This is a
gesture I don’t appreciate, resulting in me blocking them. I
refuse to have my artwork be used as a lure to pressure people
into purchasing weight loss products. That would be a gross
misrepresentation of what my artwork stands for.
Many plus sized people have gone under the
knife in order to have fat removed from their bodies. It is the
individual’s right to choose this path. The size acceptance
community has been in existence for quite some time. A lot of
benchmarks have been accomplished in the areas concerning
discrimination against people because of their size. There is
still a lot of work to be done. It’s interesting watching how
surgery can instantly change membership status in this
community. What’s even more interesting is what people do once
they are no longer plus size. There is a woman I know on
Facebook who used to be a very active leader in Yahoo bbw
groups. She is no longer a woman of size. I recently read
comments she made making fun of plus size celebrities. It’s
funny how we can firmly believe in a thing and moments later
forget where we came from and what it felt like to be mistreated
and disrespected because of one’s appearance.
The truth of the matter is that we should
all be true to the words we speak. Just because your situation
has changed doesn’t mean your perspective has to completely
change. If anything your insight should be richer and help form
a more informed perspective. Love yourself as you are and don’t
allow others to make you feel like less than you are. You
deserve more than that. If your desire is to lose weight, do it
safely, and do it for yourself. Make sure it’s not for others,
because after you lose the weight they will just find something
else to be critical of.
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Jean JNESS Nerestant Large In Charge
Hello there all my fashion loving friends. My name is Amy Lucas and
in this column I hope to bring you some new outfits that will make
you feel great and be Large and In Charge.
My whole life has not been devoted to fashion as my background is in
teaching Spanish, Math, and Science. I also have a master’s degree
in Central Office Administration.
With that said, I have been wearing
plus sizes for as long as I can remember so I do know the struggles we all
face to find cute clothes. I come from a smaller town in Michigan, which
means I have an even harder time finding plus size clothing in my area
since the choices are so limited; as well as, the sizes and styles each
Out of necessity, I started looking
online instead of just settling for the places here and have found that
other women could use the help too. I run a fashion group on Facebook
called BBW Fashion where I post something fabulous each day hoping to help
all those to find what they want in their size.
In my career, I've helped plus size
students and their parents to find fashion in their sizes that would help
them with their self-esteem and make them feel good about themselves. I
have also dabbled in fashion before this modeling for three different
stores, winning a cover model spot in July of 2012 in Large in Charge
magazine, and I was Ms. LBC 2008 for Linda's Big Connections in Chicago. I
look forward to showing you what is available in plus size fashion and
help you to look even more beautiful and chic.
19 Hot Halloween Looks
with Amy Lucas
Halloween is that time of year where you
want to find that perfect costume to wear on Halloween or to the numerous
BBW parties going on. There are many options out there but I have put
together twenty looks for you to masquerade in. If you find that any
costumes or accessories are sold out make sure to check other costume
sites as many of these are offered on other sites as well.
School Yard Babe Patent Mary Jane Heel in
black patent, sizes 6-14, $37.95,
Jay Hansen and Heidi Davis are size-acceptance advocates from Oklahoma and
co-own Oklahoma's only social size-acceptance group,
Oklahoma BBW, BHM, and their
Admirers. Heidi was born in 1969 and has been a large woman her whole
life, just as Jay has been an admirer of such plus-sized women all of his.
Heidi graduated High School in 1987, which is the same year Jay was born.
The two met online in 2005 and quickly developed a friendship. In 2009,
Jay graduated the University of Central Oklahoma with a Bachelor’s in
English Education, and the following year he and Heidi started dating and
quickly fell deeply in love.
Heidi is experienced, blunt, pragmatic, down-to-earth, and strong in every
sense of the word, while Jay is intellectual, articulate, ideological,
contemplative, and gentle. Heidi is eighteen years Jay's senior and nearly
three times his weight, while Jay is 140 pounds soaking wet with a brick
in his pocket. He's a king amongst nerds and all things geeky; she's a
tattooed, rough-and-tumble, hard rocker to her core. Together, they are a
beautiful personification of the old adage
"The Skinny on Big Love with Jay Hansen" was started in 2013 with Jay as
the primary writer and Heidi as his muse and endless source of ideas and
inspiration. Together, the two hope to provide people with a new frame of
mind on love and relationships, promote open-mindedness and acceptance,
ask intriguing questions, foster conversations, and prove to the world
that titles such as weight and age, amongst countless others, should never
stand in the way of one's pursuit of happiness.
Going Big Places
with Jay Hansen
Earlier this week Heidi and I had to scout out a new location to host my
Young Turks meet ups here in Oklahoma City. The rules for finding a
place were simple, yet finding an adequate place was a challenge. After
weeks of searching, I narrowed it to two locations that shall be
referred to as shop A and shop B. When we actually visited these two
locations, one was quite size accommodating, while the other was
possibly the least size accommodating establishment I've ever seen. I
wrote an article before about chronic size-related challenges we face
when we go out to eat (the table vs. booth conundrum), but in it I
didn't exactly detail what actually makes a restaurant or any business
"fat friendly." Our experience with these two shops gave me such a stark
contrast I finally had the inspiration and experience I needed to tell
this story with the specificity and first-hand knowledge it deserves.
Shop A was the first we went to, and it was fantastic. On top of great
food, there was plenty of open space. The chairs did not have arms,
there were ample cushioned seats versus harder, table seats, the
temperature was maintained at an acceptable level, and perhaps most of
all, the waiter working the front desk was very friendly, answered all
of our questions, and made sure we were comfortable. The chairs were
sturdy and the floor was concrete, so they didn't slide around. Parking
was a little hard, but not unacceptable; we still easily found a spot
within walking distance for Heidi, which isn't very far because of her
Then we went to Shop B. Lord, where to begin! First of all, when I
called I was told Tuesday was supposedly their slowest night, yet they
were packed. Their parking lot, which consisted of approximately eight
spots, was full, and the nearest one was a good five minute walk away
for Heidi, which she barely made in the hot, muggy Oklahoma summer. When
we did make it to the shop, the doorway was quite narrow since the
building was a refurbished house. It was literally difficult just for
Heidi to get inside the door, but that was nothing compared to what
Ahead of us and to the left was the front counter, but there was a very
awkwardly positioned column just in front of us, and in front of the
counter. It was so close to the counter that Heidi couldn't fit between
it, so she had to go around, but immediately to the right of the column
was a table, so she had to go around that. Heidi had to walk almost half
the length of the building in a labyrinth-style path to so much as get
to the front desk all because of poorly placed columns and furniture
that made it impossible for a person of size to navigate.
When we finally got our food we looked for a place to sit. The nearest
place was the aforementioned awkwardly placed table Heidi had to slide
around to get to the front desk, so she headed there while I paid for
our food. I don't know how, but she managed to ever-so-delicately sit in
the chair and wait for me. It was about that time I noticed something;
I'm relatively certain their furniture was built for hobbits. Seriously,
the chairs were so tiny and flimsy that one creaked and groaned when I
sat in it. Plus, it was a wooden chair with no stoppers on the legs on a
hardwood floor, so when I sat down the chair slid nearly two inches
forward, and I was concerned that I would fall out of it, if not break
it. Me. 140 pound me. Heidi looked at me and immediately said
"yeah, no," and we searched
for another place to sit.
Since I was checking the place out for my TYT meet ups, I thought I'd
poke into the private room to see what it's like. In all seriousness,
the "private room" was much smaller than my own living room, yet had
four tables crammed into it, each with at least three or four chairs.
The room was also stuffed to the brim with customers; apparently, the
"private room" is the first part of the shop to fill up. People
scrawnier than I am were practically sitting in each other's laps they
so tightly packed. There was literally no way, even if the room had been
empty, that Heidi could even get into the private room, much less now
when it was full.
Eventually, we found this sofa... thing... with no arms or back. I guess
it was more like an ottoman on steroids. When I sat on it, it was so
plush I sank several inches into it. When Heidi sat in it, she sank
half-way to the floor, which is bad enough on its own but even worse for
her given her knees. Also, there was no table for this seat, so we just
had to hold our plates in our hands. It was a coffee shop, so I'd be
willing to look past that if not for all the other challenges we
It was not long after starting to eat that I was sweating. Me. I don't
sweat unless I'm doing hard physical work or
dying. It wasn't much cooler
inside the shop than outside at all. That's when I realized Heidi must
be absolutely miserable from the heat alone and I knew we had to get out
of there. We ate as quickly as we could, and as I did I took more visual
notes of the place. A lot of the furniture was not just hobbit tiny, but
falling apart. That furniture that actually was size-accommodating was
already occupied by some of the smallest, thinnest people I'd ever seen.
Now I'm not about to expect people to just give up their seats for us
based on our physical needs in today's modern society - that sounds like
something Christ would do - but it also certainly didn't help the
circumstances of our visit.
About the same time as I finished eating the horrible smell of body odor
hit me right in the face; everyone in the restaurant was sweating
profusely, yet perfectly content to just hang out, lounging around, and
managing to take up an entire couch with just two customers sitting on
it. To add insult to injury, the food was only about as good as what we
make at home. It was a terrible experience for both of us that we'd
rather put behind us, but there was a small victory that came out of it.
Several days later, long after confirming shop A as our new TYT meet up
location, I was retelling the story of shop B to a friend that isn't
particularly involved with the size acceptance movement. Contrary to his
usual lack of interest in the subject, he was disgusted by what happened
to us. Later in our conversation, he was discussing possibly going out
to eat with me and Heidi. After making a few suggestions based on where
he'd eaten before, he stopped himself and retracted his suggestions
because he realized the places he had suggested were not size friendly
and would not be accommodating for Heidi. In other words, someone who
had never considered the special needs of extra large people was made
aware of them and now takes them into consideration when planning.
It's a small victory, but small victories like these are why I wanted to
start writing this column in the first place. Hopefully, there have been
many more small victories from my writing, and there will continue to be
until, one person at a time, we manage to make the world a much
friendlier place for all the wonderful, beautiful, and deserving fat
people in it. For now, I'll take what victories I can.
I was born in San Diego,
California on August 30, 1972. Grew up in
San Jose, San Francisco, and San Diego California.
I Graduated from San Diego State University in
1996 with a Bachelors Degree in Journalism
(Radio-TV News) and a Bachelors Degree in
I interned with U.S.
Senator Dianne Feinstein from 1995-1996.
interned with CBS News during the 1996 Republican
Currently I'm a
Licensed Sales Representative with Pacific Shores
Real Estate, Inc. in Solana Beach, California
I'm Co-Owner of Club Catalina BBW Night Club
in San Diego, CA.
And a newlywed, married
to Kathy Edmondson as of December 31, 2012.
I am the father of one daughter - Safiyah
Edmondson (8) and stepfather to two young men,
Alexander Hernandez (22) and John Rhakman Macklin
I enjoy bowling, basketball, tennis,
football. I play 12 musical instruments. I also
design a web page for a real estate company.
A Man’s Most Attractive Feature
with David Edmondson
First, I would like to say that I’m pleased that the
issue of Domestic Violence is finally getting the
attention it deserves, not just in the NFL, but in
society as well. While we would all like to point the
finger at the actions of Ray Rice, there has emerged an
even bigger culprit in this saga…….His name is Roger
he was not the one whom knocked a woman unconscious in
an elevator, only to drag her body to the floor but he
has actively participated in a plan to divert focus and
or cover up this incident. First, we were told that the
NFL did not have access to the videotape despite asking
law enforcement for access. This was hard enough to
believe, but then Mr. Goodell, went on CBS This Morning,
to state that Mr. Rice’s account of events, was not
consistent, with what was on the videotape.
Only later do we
find out that Mr. Goodell was less than truthful on both
counts. I’m stating that we may not all be blessed with
good looks, especially being larger in size, nor are we
all wealthy, but neither of these things are the most
attractive feature of a man. The most attractive feature
is that of honesty and integrity.
watching Roger Goodell’s press conference the other day,
I was reminded of a Corporate CEO and why no one likes
them very much. Usually, when someone makes a mistake,
the key is to be honest, humble and contrite. Yet, that
was not displayed at that press conference. Instead, I
saw all the arrogance that I guess comes with making $44
million dollars a year. The attitude seemed to be don’t
blame me, I didn’t cause this issue, but we will fix it
now. How many times in our lifetime have we dealt with a
know-it all, whom has to have the last word on every
subject, but when they are wrong, they are quick to
blame everyone else, instead of simply owning up to
their mistake? I can say that at times, I’ve been one of
those people. Most people like to deal with someone who
can take a hard and honest look at themselves and is
accountable.After all, when our looks fail, integrity and
honesty is all we have left.
How many people have we seen in the past, bragging about
the car they have or the places they’ve been or even the
money they have, all in efforts to try and impress
people. Maybe you yourself fall into this category. Yet,
when the truth is exposed, you are left standing by
yourself. The rule is if you have to go through such
lengths to impress someone, chances are that person is
not worth impressing or that you may have a self-esteem
issue. People are going to like you for being you and if
they do not, you don’t need them in your life anyway.
This is not to say looks or intelligence does not play a
role in the type of people you attract, because they do.
However, the type of quality people you have contact
with will start and end with you. While you may not be
in control of how much money you make, where you stay or
the vehicle you drive; you are in control of your morals
and being honest and straightforward. When you are able
to get a handle on those issues, your life and the lives
of those around you will benefit greatly.
Freakie has been a member of the BBW community for
over 20 years. She lives in Washington State with
her two cats Boo Boo & Maxie, and has also resided
in California and New York. Besides advocating for
Big Beautiful Women she is a lifelong child
advocate and is a strong believer in Size
Acceptance (ALL sizes). She dreams of travelling
the world and being an ambassador for the fat
community. Her personal motto is, “FAT CHICKS
The Best of Intentions
We would get better results in our lives if we paid more
attention to the people who lift us up rather than those
who we perceive as having let us down.If nobody is lifting us up then we need to pay
attention to the people around us who need lifting up
and focus on them.It’s a cycle.At some point it will get around to your turn and
the more positive energy you put out there the more you
Positive intention is a real and measurable thing.
If you are focused on things like lack, frustration,
want, anger, resentment, guilt, etc., then those things
will continue to manifest in your life.No matter what circumstances you face there is
always a choice in how you persevere.If you are in a rut, turn to someone who will
help you without judging you.We all fall down and sometimes we need help to
get back up again.Needing help is only bad when you refuse to admit
you need help.
Look for the Lifters in your life.Who is your biggest cheerleader?Who inspires you?Who helps?Who checks in?Who prays for you?Who listens?Who encourages you?Allow yourself to be lifted with the intention of
paying it forward to someone else and becoming a part of
the positive cycle.Ask yourself who you do those things for.Anyone? If
you are not sure then you might want to find someone to
“adopt” and practice being a small light in their life.Maybe they need company, maybe they need a ride
to an appointment, or maybe they just need a phone call.
This is what builds strong communities.This is what makes us better neighbors, friends,
coworkers, leaders, followers, and individuals.This is the cycle we want to pass on to our