Many times in life we
feel as though nothing we do can go right. A sore spot turns into
tragedy. Sometimes we are bombarded by negativity and we feel as
though we are thrown into a deep hole. Repressed and suffocated, we
don't see the way out. We want to wallow in the pain, wallow in the
negative thinking. Feeling sorry for yourself is addictive. Being
the victim a role that is played well because it gives you the
attention you need at the moment.
It can be ok to wallow
at times but you cant allow it to be a way of life. Difficulties in
life while they are hard and unfair happen. They happen to make you
a better stronger person, if you learn your lessons well you will be
able to throw the positive up against the negative and battle it out
for your own good.
Being plus sized often
gives us multiple difficulties we have to face. Trying to keep
yourself, mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually sane is a
task that is daunting. Especially when the whole world is telling
you "YOUR NOT GOOD ENOUGH". Societies message is constant and loud.
Happiness is a picture and you don't fit the mold. Fat people cant
be happy they say, because your fat. You don't fit into the picture
of happiness. Happiness is only for the pretty, slim, young people.
Not you, you could never be happy because your not good enough. You
don't fit the picture that society posts on every bill board,
commercial, tv show, magazine and advertisement. Conform, change
yourself on the outside, and be like us then you will be happy.
The message is out
there and it seems that most people believe it. Even those of us who
are bigger in body. No wonder we cant see a way out of the hole. It
is so bad that even those of us who are positive cant convince the
hurt and humiliated.
I cant tell you how
many people I have met in crossing. Some plus sized and some not who
cant see there way out of the hole. Not only do they not see the way
out but they have a defeatist attitude. No matter what you say, they
refuse to try. Every excuse used to not have to face the fact that
happiness depends on them. Your happiness depends on you and no
cookie cut image will get you happiness. You can only achieve it
from the inside out.
Well this month I am
not accepting any excuses from anyone. I have heard them all, it is
time to change. It is time to make yourself feel good about
something. It is time to change your perception of yourself. By
achieving you will notice that you feel better. By making yourself
feel better you can make others feel better, and I am here to show
you a way. Size will not stop you unless you let it. So today I am
challenging you to set a goal and get out of your hole.
I have two sites I want
to share with you:
www.43things.com
- This website I found while searching and it is really great.
You register and then type in something you want to do. It doesn't
have to be big. You can share in the goals of others. If you see
something listed that you have done, you can also click the option
that says "I HAVE DONE THIS".
You can make a post of
your goal and why you want to achieve it and share your progress
with others who have the same goal. You can help each other achieve
it. One of the best features I enjoy are CHEERS. You can click cheer
and let someone know that you support there goal and even comment to
give them support. It doesn't matter if what you want to do is big
or small. A lot of these goals can be done at home. When you have
completed one of the things on your list you click I HAVE DONE THIS
and you can state if it was worth it or not.
Some of you may say,
how does completing some little silly goals help me? It is the
feeling of accomplishment. Start with small things and slowly you
will advance to bigger things. The same way wallowing and feeling
sorry for yourself is addictive. So is feeling good. If you can
teach yourself to over come obstacles then you will see things
differently. Instead of saying "DAMN, I cant do that!" You will
begin to say "HMMMMM, I wonder how I can find a way to do this"? BIG
DIFFERENCE!
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Some of my
43 things I want to accomplish |
Some of the
things I have accomplished |
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www.HelpOthers.org - This site has helped me a great deal. The
whole purpose is to give RAOK (Random Acts of Kindness). The small
things you can do for complete strangers in which you receive
nothing in return but the feeling that you did something good for
someone else. This has such a positive affect. Most people often do
Random Acts of Kindness for others with out thinking about it. But
this site helps you have a purpose. A place to share your stories.
Be inspired by others stories and try different ways to give RAOK.
The best feature is Smile Cards. You can earn points for printed
smile cards. People have donated money to print these wonderful
Smile cards that you can use when your doing RAOK. You can also
donate if you wish to help others get printed cards that help bring
joy to others. Bringing a smile to someone can make you feel very
good about yourself.
Giving RAOK gives you
power in a proper way. The power to bring joy and happiness to
others, and in return you feel so much better about yourself. Many
times we feel as though we have no control in this world. Can you
image now through a Random Act of Kindness to have a powerful
positive affect on someone's life. Something they will remember for
a long time to come. Maybe even inspiring them to show a Random Act
of Kindness to another person. Even the smallest RAOK counts. Combat
the negativity in your life by practicing and teaching others how to
give Random Acts of Kindness.
Some ideas for RAOK:
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Put some change
into a meter that you see it is about to expire.
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Send a smile card
from the site above to a random person out of the phone book.
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Buy a extra meal or
cook an extra plate of food and give it to a homeless person.
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Help someone bag
there groceries at the super market.
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Donate items for
those in need.
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Volunteer - at a
clinic, hospital, nursing home or school.
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SMILE - sometimes
just smiling at people can make them feel better.
I hope that you all try
to achieve your goals and do for others. It will chance your life.
Raqui
