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     Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge.com, Raqui's  "Tell it like it is" style of writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to LargeInCharge.com.  There is so much behind the woman who has brought this magazine into existence.  Being Internationally known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies, being featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the world.  She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born, Raised and Residing in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by storm.

 

     For the past 6 years Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.  With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her.  Knock her down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.  Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized people online her grace and style has made people love her.  Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend the world to fit her, her way.

 

     Raqui's appearances include, Uk Televesion, German TV, Japan, Europe and the Spanish circuit.  Her many magazines appearances have been world wide.  She has hit American Televsion in 2006 with Good Morning America and since has appeared on The Cristina Show,  The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.

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Raqui-ism - I will not adopt your Drama!

Written By: Raqui 

 

     The word Drama has changed in meaning, at least somewhat.  At one time it was a way to describe a movie or show at the theater.  Now it is used to represent a person or circumstance with negative traits.  Someone who is always living a sensational type of life full of dramatic flair. But not in a good way.

 

Definition: provided via wisegeek.com

 

Conflicts and disappointments are natural side effects of the human experience, but for a certain personality type known as a "drama queen," life's little setbacks can trigger explosive emotional outbursts and other irrational behaviors. The term "drama queen," or less frequently, "drama king" is usually applied to someone with a demanding or overbearing personality who tends to overreact to seemingly minor incidents. A drama queen often views the world in absolutes, and only has two settings on her emotional control button; zero and ten. Psychologists might describe a drama queen or king as a neurotic personality with histrionic tendencies, meaning they tend to become needlessly dramatic whenever order is disrupted. In adult life, being considered a drama queen or a drama king is generally not a good thing.

 

     We all know these types, an endless dramatic experience that usually tires, not only the drama Queen or King, but all those around them.  The drama driven person is usually seeking attention, and wants those around them to feel sorrowful over the many difficulties they seem to experience.  These types can drain you emotionally, spiritually and physically. 

 

     Those of us who try to help often become hyper sensitive, and are constantly trying to be their for the individual, who is suffering.  This suffering is more often than not an addiction.  One that brings them the attention they are seeking, a feeling of importance.  Being able to repeat it again and again to get the "WHOA AS ME" fix.

 

     The problem with this cycle is that it can cause the Drama King or Queen to manipulate others.  Taking themselves and you on a never ending cycle that will drive the person who helps the drama king/queen to stress, often not being able to handle there own personal own issues, because they are consumed with what is happening in DRAMA LAND.

 

     I myself have often been the helper, the ear to listen, the person to encourage my drama induced associates.  So much so that my life, and feelings, became second place.  Just through association with these particular people, I saw myself becoming just like them.  A dramatic mess.  Once I realized how adverse the affect was on my life.  I knew I had to let them and there drama go.

 

     Once I let go of the first few, more and more people were erased from my life.  I knew that I had to focus on myself and being able to handle life's challenges affectively and not lose my mind because a difficult situation arose.   I started to see drama coming at me before I got involved, I started understanding those who purposefully created situations that became dramatic.  I now understand the needy mind of drama kings/queens, and how dangerous it truly can be when you have drama in your life.  Any obsession is harmful, Dramatic obsession can cause mental break down.

 

     At some point you have to let go of the Rush many feel when they allow the Drama king/queen attitude to take them over.  I have learned to run and get away as soon as possible. To turn my back on those who want to suck me into there dramatic experience.  I don't want to adopt your drama, I have better things to do.  Like being happy living my life drama free.

  

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