Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge.com, Raqui's  "Tell it like it is" style of writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to LargeInCharge.com.  There is so much behind the woman who has brought this magazine into existence.  Being Internationally known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling, being featured in magazines and documentaries Internationally.  She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born and Raised in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by storm.

 

     In 2004 Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment and proclaimed she would become an Activist.  With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her.  Knock her down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.  Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized people online her grace and style has made people love her.  Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend the world to fit her, her way.

 

     Raqui's appearances include, Uk Television, German TV, Japan, Europe and the Spanish circuit.  Her many magazines appearances have been world wide.  She has hit American Television in 2006 with Good Morning America and since has appeared in 2008 on The Cristina Show,  The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.  Raqui has participated in numerous artistic ventures that have been displayed in some of the most prestigious galleries (such as the Guggenheim) across the globe.

 

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Raqui-ism -  Climbing out of the Hole - Having a Goal! - Back by Popular Demand

Written By: Raqui 

 

Many times in life we feel as though nothing we do can go right. A sore spot turns into tragedy. Sometimes we are bombarded by negativity and we feel as though we are thrown into a deep hole. Repressed and suffocated, we don't see the way out. We want to wallow in the pain, wallow in the negative thinking. Feeling sorry for yourself is addictive. Being the victim a role that is played well because it gives you the attention you need at the moment.

It can be ok to wallow at times but you cant allow it to be a way of life. Difficulties in life while they are hard and unfair happen. They happen to make you a better stronger person, if you learn your lessons well you will be able to throw the positive up against the negative and battle it out for your own good.

Being plus sized often gives us multiple difficulties we have to face. Trying to keep yourself, mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually sane is a task that is daunting. Especially when the whole world is telling you "YOUR NOT GOOD ENOUGH". Societies message is constant and loud. Happiness is a picture and you don't fit the mold. Fat people cant be happy they say, because your fat. You don't fit into the picture of happiness. Happiness is only for the pretty, slim, young people. Not you, you could never be happy because your not good enough. You don't fit the picture that society posts on every bill board, commercial, tv show, magazine and advertisement. Conform, change yourself on the outside, and be like us then you will be happy.

The message is out there and it seems that most people believe it. Even those of us who are bigger in body. No wonder we cant see a way out of the hole. It is so bad that even those of us who are positive cant convince the hurt and humiliated.

I cant tell you how many people I have met in crossing. Some plus sized and some not who cant see there way out of the hole. Not only do they not see the way out but they have a defeatist attitude. No matter what you say, they refuse to try. Every excuse used to not have to face the fact that happiness depends on them. Your happiness depends on you and no cookie cut image will get you happiness. You can only achieve it from the inside out.

Well this month I am not accepting any excuses from anyone. I have heard them all, it is time to change. It is time to make yourself feel good about something. It is time to change your perception of yourself. By achieving you will notice that you feel better. By making yourself feel better you can make others feel better, and I am here to show you a way. Size will not stop you unless you let it. So today I am challenging you to set a goal and get out of your hole.

I have two sites I want to share with you:

www.43things.com - This website I found while searching and it is really great. You register and then type in something you want to do. It doesn't have to be big. You can share in the goals of others. If you see something listed that you have done, you can also click the option that says "I HAVE DONE THIS".

You can make a post of your goal and why you want to achieve it and share your progress with others who have the same goal. You can help each other achieve it. One of the best features I enjoy are CHEERS. You can click cheer and let someone know that you support there goal and even comment to give them support. It doesn't matter if what you want to do is big or small. A lot of these goals can be done at home. When you have completed one of the things on your list you click I HAVE DONE THIS and you can state if it was worth it or not.

Some of you may say, how does completing some little silly goals help me? It is the feeling of accomplishment. Start with small things and slowly you will advance to bigger things. The same way wallowing and feeling sorry for yourself is addictive. So is feeling good. If you can teach yourself to over come obstacles then you will see things differently. Instead of saying "DAMN, I cant do that!" You will begin to say "HMMMMM, I wonder how I can find a way to do this"? BIG DIFFERENCE!

Some of my 43 things I want to accomplish Some of the things I have accomplished

Pay it Forward 339 people W

get married 9520 people

www.HelpOthers.org - This site has helped me a great deal. The whole purpose is to give RAOK (Random Acts of Kindness). The small things you can do for complete strangers in which you receive nothing in return but the feeling that you did something good for someone else. This has such a positive affect. Most people often do Random Acts of Kindness for others with out thinking about it. But this site helps you have a purpose. A place to share your stories. Be inspired by others stories and try different ways to give RAOK. The best feature is Smile Cards. You can earn points for printed smile cards. People have donated money to print these wonderful Smile cards that you can use when your doing RAOK. You can also donate if you wish to help others get printed cards that help bring joy to others. Bringing a smile to someone can make you feel very good about yourself.

Giving RAOK gives you power in a proper way. The power to bring joy and happiness to others, and in return you feel so much better about yourself. Many times we feel as though we have no control in this world. Can you image now through a Random Act of Kindness to have a powerful positive affect on someone's life. Something they will remember for a long time to come. Maybe even inspiring them to show a Random Act of Kindness to another person. Even the smallest RAOK counts. Combat the negativity in your life by practicing and teaching others how to give Random Acts of Kindness.

Some ideas for RAOK:

  • Put some change into a meter that you see it is about to expire.

  • Send a smile card from the site above to a random person out of the phone book.

  • Buy a extra meal or cook an extra plate of food and give it to a homeless person.

  • Help someone bag there groceries at the super market.

  • Donate items for those in need.

  • Volunteer - at a clinic, hospital, nursing home or school.

  • SMILE - sometimes just smiling at people can make them feel better.

I hope that you all try to achieve your goals and do for others. It will chance your life.

Raqui

 

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